.. my girlfriend and I.. at the start of the relationship with my girlfriend was great. I can say that I continue to be a Challenged for her. Later on she found out that i'm fooling around with the other girl. that the start of the tragic.. her trust was sink to 40%. do i have to say NEXT? or IS there something that i can do to keep this girl. i don't want to lose her... she's my candidate for LTR.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
how to keep my gf when her trust was sinking low?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
zerocelcius
Master Don Juan
Did you tell her she was exclusive?
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Well, if you wanted to keep her and since she found out... She will probably leave you. She may stay if she thinks your the great catch and her interest level is really high. But, that will always be in the back of her head and who knows how the relationship could go after this. Jusy play it cool with your girl and see how it goes. Or just drop her and leave behinde all the drama that will come into your life.
KontrollerX
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When you declare a chick your girlfriend that by itself implies exclusivity.
You are now the cheater in the relationship and it looks like your girlfriend is going to walk away from you and rightfully so.
There is nothing you can do to save this sinking ship unless she is unbelievably forgiving and you cut off contact with all other girls.
I mean you could walk away from this chick first but to my mind that would just add insult to injury.
You've put yourself in a lose/lose scenario basically that all depends on this girl forgiving and forgetting and I don't see her doing either.
You are now the cheater in the relationship and it looks like your girlfriend is going to walk away from you and rightfully so.
There is nothing you can do to save this sinking ship unless she is unbelievably forgiving and you cut off contact with all other girls.
I mean you could walk away from this chick first but to my mind that would just add insult to injury.
You've put yourself in a lose/lose scenario basically that all depends on this girl forgiving and forgetting and I don't see her doing either.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
zerocelcius
Master Don Juan
Let her know she is appreciated. Tell her you weren’t ready to settle down. If you want to be only with her, than tell her you will give up the other girls. If she doesn't accept this than it is over.
KontrollerX & I.A.F.Y.B. have already said the rest.
Don't imply or promise exclusivity unless they are exclusive. Lesson learned?
KontrollerX & I.A.F.Y.B. have already said the rest.
Don't imply or promise exclusivity unless they are exclusive. Lesson learned?
PectoralisMajor
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Good advice by zero - use it..