.. my girlfriend and I.. at the start of the relationship with my girlfriend was great. I can say that I continue to be a Challenged for her. Later on she found out that i'm fooling around with the other girl. that the start of the tragic.. her trust was sink to 40%. do i have to say NEXT? or IS there something that i can do to keep this girl. i don't want to lose her... she's my candidate for LTR.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
how to keep my gf when her trust was sinking low?
- Thread starter djneo
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
zerocelcius
Master Don Juan
Did you tell her she was exclusive?
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Well, if you wanted to keep her and since she found out... She will probably leave you. She may stay if she thinks your the great catch and her interest level is really high. But, that will always be in the back of her head and who knows how the relationship could go after this. Jusy play it cool with your girl and see how it goes. Or just drop her and leave behinde all the drama that will come into your life.
KontrollerX
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When you declare a chick your girlfriend that by itself implies exclusivity.
You are now the cheater in the relationship and it looks like your girlfriend is going to walk away from you and rightfully so.
There is nothing you can do to save this sinking ship unless she is unbelievably forgiving and you cut off contact with all other girls.
I mean you could walk away from this chick first but to my mind that would just add insult to injury.
You've put yourself in a lose/lose scenario basically that all depends on this girl forgiving and forgetting and I don't see her doing either.
You are now the cheater in the relationship and it looks like your girlfriend is going to walk away from you and rightfully so.
There is nothing you can do to save this sinking ship unless she is unbelievably forgiving and you cut off contact with all other girls.
I mean you could walk away from this chick first but to my mind that would just add insult to injury.
You've put yourself in a lose/lose scenario basically that all depends on this girl forgiving and forgetting and I don't see her doing either.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
zerocelcius
Master Don Juan
Let her know she is appreciated. Tell her you weren’t ready to settle down. If you want to be only with her, than tell her you will give up the other girls. If she doesn't accept this than it is over.
KontrollerX & I.A.F.Y.B. have already said the rest.
Don't imply or promise exclusivity unless they are exclusive. Lesson learned?
KontrollerX & I.A.F.Y.B. have already said the rest.
Don't imply or promise exclusivity unless they are exclusive. Lesson learned?
PectoralisMajor
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Good advice by zero - use it..