"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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how to keep my gf when her trust was sinking low?

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.. my girlfriend and I.. at the start of the relationship with my girlfriend was great. I can say that I continue to be a Challenged for her. Later on she found out that i'm fooling around with the other girl. that the start of the tragic.. her trust was sink to 40%. do i have to say NEXT? or IS there something that i can do to keep this girl. i don't want to lose her... she's my candidate for LTR.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Did you tell her she was exclusive?
 
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Well, if you wanted to keep her and since she found out... She will probably leave you. She may stay if she thinks your the great catch and her interest level is really high. But, that will always be in the back of her head and who knows how the relationship could go after this. Jusy play it cool with your girl and see how it goes. Or just drop her and leave behinde all the drama that will come into your life.
 
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When you declare a chick your girlfriend that by itself implies exclusivity.

You are now the cheater in the relationship and it looks like your girlfriend is going to walk away from you and rightfully so.

There is nothing you can do to save this sinking ship unless she is unbelievably forgiving and you cut off contact with all other girls.

I mean you could walk away from this chick first but to my mind that would just add insult to injury.

You've put yourself in a lose/lose scenario basically that all depends on this girl forgiving and forgetting and I don't see her doing either.
 
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yah.. i told her that..is there something that i could do to turn this losing moments into stalemate?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Let her know she is appreciated. Tell her you weren’t ready to settle down. If you want to be only with her, than tell her you will give up the other girls. If she doesn't accept this than it is over.

KontrollerX & I.A.F.Y.B. have already said the rest.

Don't imply or promise exclusivity unless they are exclusive. Lesson learned?
 
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