weakepedea
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How do I develop confidence?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
How to develop confidence?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
Experience.
Randallpink83
Master Don Juan
well you're gonna need a lot of tape, glue, clay and some chips and salsa...
or you can click on the link at the very bottom of this page that says "The DJ Bible" and find anything you want in there.
or you can click on the link at the very bottom of this page that says "The DJ Bible" and find anything you want in there.
KontrollerX
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I like how Rollo put it.
"Fake it until you make it."
Thats one way to build confidence.
Another is assigning yourself some tasks for the day of how many women you will approach or whatever.
The poster who mentioned the DJ Bible is right when he basically conveyed you should check it out.
It has a boot camp section in it that can help you build all the confidence in the world as I believe it gives you projects to do.
"Fake it until you make it."
Thats one way to build confidence.
Another is assigning yourself some tasks for the day of how many women you will approach or whatever.
The poster who mentioned the DJ Bible is right when he basically conveyed you should check it out.
It has a boot camp section in it that can help you build all the confidence in the world as I believe it gives you projects to do.
So pimp its scary
Master Don Juan
I like this question
Here is one description of confidence :
Confidence is the knowledge survivaveable situations.
In other words confidence is combination of experience and courage.
What is experience ? Doing new things wrong at first, and then gradually closwer to right from trial and error or through coaching.
What is courage? It is acting in the face of fear.
Therefore, to gain more real confidence you must start by going out and experiencing new things, then once fear sets in you must act in spite of your fears, once accomplished that level of fear you surpassed gets added as an equal level of confidence because you see that you can survive a new situation.
PS / Dumbass warning : Going into harlem at midnight as a white guy because you're scared of it will not be a demonstration of courage but a demonstration of stupidity. If you insist on getting into fights at least go into martial arts where you won't end up killed.
Here is one description of confidence :
Confidence is the knowledge survivaveable situations.
In other words confidence is combination of experience and courage.
What is experience ? Doing new things wrong at first, and then gradually closwer to right from trial and error or through coaching.
What is courage? It is acting in the face of fear.
Therefore, to gain more real confidence you must start by going out and experiencing new things, then once fear sets in you must act in spite of your fears, once accomplished that level of fear you surpassed gets added as an equal level of confidence because you see that you can survive a new situation.
PS / Dumbass warning : Going into harlem at midnight as a white guy because you're scared of it will not be a demonstration of courage but a demonstration of stupidity. If you insist on getting into fights at least go into martial arts where you won't end up killed.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
PlaysToWin
Don Juan
I highly endorse this.KontrollerX said:"Fake it until you make it."