weakepedea
Don Juan
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How do I develop confidence?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
How to develop confidence?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
Experience.
Randallpink83
Master Don Juan
well you're gonna need a lot of tape, glue, clay and some chips and salsa...
or you can click on the link at the very bottom of this page that says "The DJ Bible" and find anything you want in there.
or you can click on the link at the very bottom of this page that says "The DJ Bible" and find anything you want in there.
KontrollerX
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I like how Rollo put it.
"Fake it until you make it."
Thats one way to build confidence.
Another is assigning yourself some tasks for the day of how many women you will approach or whatever.
The poster who mentioned the DJ Bible is right when he basically conveyed you should check it out.
It has a boot camp section in it that can help you build all the confidence in the world as I believe it gives you projects to do.
"Fake it until you make it."
Thats one way to build confidence.
Another is assigning yourself some tasks for the day of how many women you will approach or whatever.
The poster who mentioned the DJ Bible is right when he basically conveyed you should check it out.
It has a boot camp section in it that can help you build all the confidence in the world as I believe it gives you projects to do.
So pimp its scary
Master Don Juan
I like this question
Here is one description of confidence :
Confidence is the knowledge survivaveable situations.
In other words confidence is combination of experience and courage.
What is experience ? Doing new things wrong at first, and then gradually closwer to right from trial and error or through coaching.
What is courage? It is acting in the face of fear.
Therefore, to gain more real confidence you must start by going out and experiencing new things, then once fear sets in you must act in spite of your fears, once accomplished that level of fear you surpassed gets added as an equal level of confidence because you see that you can survive a new situation.
PS / Dumbass warning : Going into harlem at midnight as a white guy because you're scared of it will not be a demonstration of courage but a demonstration of stupidity. If you insist on getting into fights at least go into martial arts where you won't end up killed.
Here is one description of confidence :
Confidence is the knowledge survivaveable situations.
In other words confidence is combination of experience and courage.
What is experience ? Doing new things wrong at first, and then gradually closwer to right from trial and error or through coaching.
What is courage? It is acting in the face of fear.
Therefore, to gain more real confidence you must start by going out and experiencing new things, then once fear sets in you must act in spite of your fears, once accomplished that level of fear you surpassed gets added as an equal level of confidence because you see that you can survive a new situation.
PS / Dumbass warning : Going into harlem at midnight as a white guy because you're scared of it will not be a demonstration of courage but a demonstration of stupidity. If you insist on getting into fights at least go into martial arts where you won't end up killed.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
PlaysToWin
Don Juan
I highly endorse this.KontrollerX said:"Fake it until you make it."