weakepedea
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How do I develop confidence?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How to develop confidence?
- Thread starter weakepedea
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
Experience.
Randallpink83
Master Don Juan
well you're gonna need a lot of tape, glue, clay and some chips and salsa...
or you can click on the link at the very bottom of this page that says "The DJ Bible" and find anything you want in there.
or you can click on the link at the very bottom of this page that says "The DJ Bible" and find anything you want in there.
KontrollerX
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I like how Rollo put it.
"Fake it until you make it."
Thats one way to build confidence.
Another is assigning yourself some tasks for the day of how many women you will approach or whatever.
The poster who mentioned the DJ Bible is right when he basically conveyed you should check it out.
It has a boot camp section in it that can help you build all the confidence in the world as I believe it gives you projects to do.
"Fake it until you make it."
Thats one way to build confidence.
Another is assigning yourself some tasks for the day of how many women you will approach or whatever.
The poster who mentioned the DJ Bible is right when he basically conveyed you should check it out.
It has a boot camp section in it that can help you build all the confidence in the world as I believe it gives you projects to do.
So pimp its scary
Master Don Juan
I like this question
Here is one description of confidence :
Confidence is the knowledge survivaveable situations.
In other words confidence is combination of experience and courage.
What is experience ? Doing new things wrong at first, and then gradually closwer to right from trial and error or through coaching.
What is courage? It is acting in the face of fear.
Therefore, to gain more real confidence you must start by going out and experiencing new things, then once fear sets in you must act in spite of your fears, once accomplished that level of fear you surpassed gets added as an equal level of confidence because you see that you can survive a new situation.
PS / Dumbass warning : Going into harlem at midnight as a white guy because you're scared of it will not be a demonstration of courage but a demonstration of stupidity. If you insist on getting into fights at least go into martial arts where you won't end up killed.
Here is one description of confidence :
Confidence is the knowledge survivaveable situations.
In other words confidence is combination of experience and courage.
What is experience ? Doing new things wrong at first, and then gradually closwer to right from trial and error or through coaching.
What is courage? It is acting in the face of fear.
Therefore, to gain more real confidence you must start by going out and experiencing new things, then once fear sets in you must act in spite of your fears, once accomplished that level of fear you surpassed gets added as an equal level of confidence because you see that you can survive a new situation.
PS / Dumbass warning : Going into harlem at midnight as a white guy because you're scared of it will not be a demonstration of courage but a demonstration of stupidity. If you insist on getting into fights at least go into martial arts where you won't end up killed.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
PlaysToWin
Don Juan
I highly endorse this.KontrollerX said:"Fake it until you make it."