weakepedea
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How do I develop confidence?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How to develop confidence?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
Experience.
Randallpink83
Master Don Juan
well you're gonna need a lot of tape, glue, clay and some chips and salsa...
or you can click on the link at the very bottom of this page that says "The DJ Bible" and find anything you want in there.
or you can click on the link at the very bottom of this page that says "The DJ Bible" and find anything you want in there.
KontrollerX
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I like how Rollo put it.
"Fake it until you make it."
Thats one way to build confidence.
Another is assigning yourself some tasks for the day of how many women you will approach or whatever.
The poster who mentioned the DJ Bible is right when he basically conveyed you should check it out.
It has a boot camp section in it that can help you build all the confidence in the world as I believe it gives you projects to do.
"Fake it until you make it."
Thats one way to build confidence.
Another is assigning yourself some tasks for the day of how many women you will approach or whatever.
The poster who mentioned the DJ Bible is right when he basically conveyed you should check it out.
It has a boot camp section in it that can help you build all the confidence in the world as I believe it gives you projects to do.
So pimp its scary
Master Don Juan
I like this question
Here is one description of confidence :
Confidence is the knowledge survivaveable situations.
In other words confidence is combination of experience and courage.
What is experience ? Doing new things wrong at first, and then gradually closwer to right from trial and error or through coaching.
What is courage? It is acting in the face of fear.
Therefore, to gain more real confidence you must start by going out and experiencing new things, then once fear sets in you must act in spite of your fears, once accomplished that level of fear you surpassed gets added as an equal level of confidence because you see that you can survive a new situation.
PS / Dumbass warning : Going into harlem at midnight as a white guy because you're scared of it will not be a demonstration of courage but a demonstration of stupidity. If you insist on getting into fights at least go into martial arts where you won't end up killed.
Here is one description of confidence :
Confidence is the knowledge survivaveable situations.
In other words confidence is combination of experience and courage.
What is experience ? Doing new things wrong at first, and then gradually closwer to right from trial and error or through coaching.
What is courage? It is acting in the face of fear.
Therefore, to gain more real confidence you must start by going out and experiencing new things, then once fear sets in you must act in spite of your fears, once accomplished that level of fear you surpassed gets added as an equal level of confidence because you see that you can survive a new situation.
PS / Dumbass warning : Going into harlem at midnight as a white guy because you're scared of it will not be a demonstration of courage but a demonstration of stupidity. If you insist on getting into fights at least go into martial arts where you won't end up killed.
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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
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Don Juan
I highly endorse this.KontrollerX said:"Fake it until you make it."