"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How to beat Approach Anxiety and **** Fear
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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I actually don't agree with forcing yourself to rack up approaches just because the women are there.
Pick women that you actually WANT to approach.
Sometimes, we think we are "afraid," but we really aren't. We just have no interest in approaching a particular female or group of females.
That's how procrastination works. We think we fear something, so we avoid it. In reality, we avoid it because we don't like it.
If you want to approach her and you hesitate, that's a real approach anxiety. In that case, do it, but keep it casual and don't put too much pressure on yourself.
Tictac
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What is there to be afraid of?
What's the worst that can happen? They say 'no'. Not exactly earth shattering.
easier said than done, but I do think it takes quite a bit of practice to convince your emotional side that there is nothing to be afraid of.
Its tough man, i get it. :cuss:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Mike32ct said:
I totally agree with this. You do NOT have to approach every girl you see in public. In fact, I think it reeks of desperation and thirst. Snipers don't shoot every guy in their scope, they wait for the one they want. Put it this way, when you see that one cute chick that's giving you "fück me" eyes and sends a charge through your wang, you'll want to go up to her. It is then that you should not have anxiety and apply what you've learned here. Just be casual, chill and say hi and make small talk.
If she shoots you down, bail. Not that that in itself won't suck gorilla balls, but at least you tried with the intent of going after the chick that excited you.
Once you are good with people, THEN start adding the pickup pretense into the equation. For many men today conditioned to texting, FB, IM, video games, the first step is to build a foundation of social skills for general face to face interactions with people. Then refine towards seducing women. Good luck.
I really appreciate your advice but you see you have told me what to do but I don't know where to begin. I know you must be asking yourself how socially retarded I am. But its reached a point where all I want to do is not care what people think but how I am gonna help myself. so if you could download some of your ideas to me I would appreciatedasein said:
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.