How to beat Approach Anxiety and **** Fear

[diviaster]

I have a big problem with approaching. I am usually caught up with a lot of fear....anyone with anyhelp can do me a huge favour. how can I learn to stop fesring and start doing anyways?

 

[Mike32ct]

This probably doesn't answer your question, but I'll say it anyway...

I actually don't agree with forcing yourself to rack up approaches just because the women are there.

Pick women that you actually WANT to approach.

Sometimes, we think we are "afraid," but we really aren't. We just have no interest in approaching a particular female or group of females.

That's how procrastination works. We think we fear something, so we avoid it. In reality, we avoid it because we don't like it.

If you want to approach her and you hesitate, that's a real approach anxiety. In that case, do it, but keep it casual and don't put too much pressure on yourself.

 

[Tictac]

They're just women.

What is there to be afraid of?

What's the worst that can happen? They say 'no'. Not exactly earth shattering.

 

[MtnMan]

approach anxiety is not rational. I have a bad case of it myself. I do the best when I just go for it right away without thinking. When I go out I try to venue change regularly so I don't get 'stale'
easier said than done, but I do think it takes quite a bit of practice to convince your emotional side that there is nothing to be afraid of.
Its tough man, i get it. :cuss:

 

[asa_don]

imagine how it would feel banging her, your fears should siip away.

just go out and start talking to people, the more exposure you have with strangers the less you will be afraid to approach women.

 

[El Payaso]

Go for the rejection. Get used to getting rejected because you will get rejected a lot. That's the nature of the game. Face your fears and you will become confident.

 

[VladPatton]

This probably doesn't answer your question, but I'll say it anyway...

I actually don't agree with forcing yourself to rack up approaches just because the women are there.

Pick women that you actually WANT to approach.

Sometimes, we think we are "afraid," but we really aren't. We just have no interest in approaching a particular female or group of females.

That's how procrastination works. We think we fear something, so we avoid it. In reality, we avoid it because we don't like it.

If you want to approach her and you hesitate, that's a real approach anxiety. In that case, do it, but keep it casual and don't put too much pressure on yourself.

I totally agree with this. You do NOT have to approach every girl you see in public. In fact, I think it reeks of desperation and thirst. Snipers don't shoot every guy in their scope, they wait for the one they want. Put it this way, when you see that one cute chick that's giving you "fück me" eyes and sends a charge through your wang, you'll want to go up to her. It is then that you should not have anxiety and apply what you've learned here. Just be casual, chill and say hi and make small talk.

If she shoots you down, bail. Not that that in itself won't suck gorilla balls, but at least you tried with the intent of going after the chick that excited you.

 

[diviaster]

Actually atimes I think I have a mental problem, I must admit I have read the game, gone out to practise and rarely I never get rejected but I fear yet. I can approach but one negative person who rejects me, shutters me down to the ground. and I also don't know how to connect with people hence you get that I lead a lonely lifestyle yet I don't want to lead such a life but I have some friends but I believe I can have more so that I can hang with the....infact I broke up with my girl a few days ago....I dumped her...no love...we were just using each other and I don't feel good about being in relationship because I can't manage...probably I will beat this problem by having a better lufestyle which current I don't know how to have. man, if you feel me you gotta help. I don't wanna lead a miserable life

 

[dasein]

If you are really serious about it, I can guarantee results, but it takes effort. Start talking to people, all people you see regularly. Don't just "Hey how are you?" but remember their names, get to know them. Talk to women too without any kind of pretense, just like you talk to everyone. Like any other habit, it takes a few weeks to gel. Fringe benefit is you will uncover all sorts of other opportunities in the strangest places. Some old lady you have befriended may have her fitness instructor niece coming to visit or similar. Happens all the time.

Once you are good with people, THEN start adding the pickup pretense into the equation. For many men today conditioned to texting, FB, IM, video games, the first step is to build a foundation of social skills for general face to face interactions with people. Then refine towards seducing women. Good luck.

 

[diviaster]

If you are really serious about it, I can guarantee results, but it takes effort. Start talking to people, all people you see regularly. Don't just "Hey how are you?" but remember their names, get to know them. Talk to women too without any kind of pretense, just like you talk to everyone. Like any other habit, it takes a few weeks to gel. Fringe benefit is you will uncover all sorts of other opportunities in the strangest places. Some old lady you have befriended may have her fitness instructor niece coming to visit or similar. Happens all the time.

Once you are good with people, THEN start adding the pickup pretense into the equation. For many men today conditioned to texting, FB, IM, video games, the first step is to build a foundation of social skills for general face to face interactions with people. Then refine towards seducing women. Good luck.

I really appreciate your advice but you see you have told me what to do but I don't know where to begin. I know you must be asking yourself how socially retarded I am. But its reached a point where all I want to do is not care what people think but how I am gonna help myself. so if you could download some of your ideas to me I would appreciate