"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How to beat Approach Anxiety and **** Fear
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Mike32ct
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I actually don't agree with forcing yourself to rack up approaches just because the women are there.
Pick women that you actually WANT to approach.
Sometimes, we think we are "afraid," but we really aren't. We just have no interest in approaching a particular female or group of females.
That's how procrastination works. We think we fear something, so we avoid it. In reality, we avoid it because we don't like it.
If you want to approach her and you hesitate, that's a real approach anxiety. In that case, do it, but keep it casual and don't put too much pressure on yourself.
Tictac
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What is there to be afraid of?
What's the worst that can happen? They say 'no'. Not exactly earth shattering.
easier said than done, but I do think it takes quite a bit of practice to convince your emotional side that there is nothing to be afraid of.
Its tough man, i get it. :cuss:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Mike32ct said:
I totally agree with this. You do NOT have to approach every girl you see in public. In fact, I think it reeks of desperation and thirst. Snipers don't shoot every guy in their scope, they wait for the one they want. Put it this way, when you see that one cute chick that's giving you "fück me" eyes and sends a charge through your wang, you'll want to go up to her. It is then that you should not have anxiety and apply what you've learned here. Just be casual, chill and say hi and make small talk.
If she shoots you down, bail. Not that that in itself won't suck gorilla balls, but at least you tried with the intent of going after the chick that excited you.
Once you are good with people, THEN start adding the pickup pretense into the equation. For many men today conditioned to texting, FB, IM, video games, the first step is to build a foundation of social skills for general face to face interactions with people. Then refine towards seducing women. Good luck.
I really appreciate your advice but you see you have told me what to do but I don't know where to begin. I know you must be asking yourself how socially retarded I am. But its reached a point where all I want to do is not care what people think but how I am gonna help myself. so if you could download some of your ideas to me I would appreciatedasein said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.