"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How to be less horny?
- Thread starter Demystify
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
Why do you want to be less horny? Enjoy it while you're young, and learn to channel that drive and energy into something productive instead.
Also, get laid. That's about the only thing that will make you think less about sex.
Anyway, in regard to your specific question, I don't know anything that would diminish your sex drive, other than certain SSRI antidepressants (think Zoloft and Prozac).
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
(well clams you down enougth!)
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
Well, jerking off usually makes it worse because seeing other people have sex makes me realize more that other people are having sex and I'm not. So I'm more horny because of that. I can't jerk off to pictures or my imagination, I have to have actual video porn.SmoothTalker said:
=VAGO=
Don Juan
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
BTW it's pretty bad that you need video stimulation to get off.
How often do you try to approach girls?
kingsam
Master Don Juan
YOU NEED TO CHILL OUT...Demystify said:
most single people do not have as much sex as you imagine...its easy to imagine every one else is getting loads if you are not ... BUT other average guys are most likely not getting as much as you are imagining they do ...
quick google shows the most average man to have 7 sexual partners / lifetime - if you say that one is a marrige, 2 are RL's of decent length , then 4 are casual/ONS. its NOT that much divided over a lifetime.
so say this average man gets hitched at 30y/o then the other 6 partners spread out over the years 18-30 isnt that much ...
Soldiers are dying left and right in wars, people are getting raped and tortured in third world countries everyday, entire villages get wiped out to genocide, children are born with AIDS, others are left to die in the street while others don't have enough to eat. One earthquake hits and 300,000 die in less than 30 seconds.Demystify said:
And you can't sleep and are screaming and throwing stuff around your room because you can't get laid?
Hello logic and perspective? I may need your brain for a while since I've obviously lost mine.
Yeah, but when you know lots of guys who get a new girl every week, it's not very helpful. I had two roommates in college who constantly got several girls. My brother lost his virginity when was 13 or 14 (as opposed to 22 when I lost it) and girls look at him and instantly like him, he doesn't have to do any work. I have a cousin my age who constantly gets girls, he even got a one night stand with a girl I had been trying for for weeks.kingsam said:
I know there are statistics that show most guys don't get laid that often, but when you know more than a few guys that are outside those statistics it hurts. And I've tried being their wingman or learning from them, and that hasn't helped either.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
WC2
Master Don Juan
The whole 'can't do' attitude isn't going to help.Demystify said:
You become who you imagine yourself to be. The person who you picture in your head, is the picture that you portray in reality. You write your own script.
As long as you think of yourself lesser than your friends, the lesser you will be. Your cousin got that one night stand with that girl because he already knew he could. He already pictured it in his mind. Do you think self-confidence is some big secret? To those who have it, it comes easy because it's so easy to understand. Stop caring what others think, and think of yourself how YOU want to be. To those who don't understand, it's extremely hard because they don't WANT to believe it.
Ha now as for being horny - Don't be less horny. You are a man bro. Rape and pillage. The one thing that women can't take away is our manhood (sometimes they can). Just be careful to not let your d!ck get you into trouble.
Smartone84
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not sure if thats the case for everyone, but im sure its common
MeteorMash
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Where the hell do you people work out at? a strip club?San Jose California said:
That last thing place my body needs blood during a workout is the d1ck area
sharkbeat
Master Don Juan
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.