That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Well, jerking off usually makes it worse because seeing other people have sex makes me realize more that other people are having sex and I'm not. So I'm more horny because of that. I can't jerk off to pictures or my imagination, I have to have actual video porn.SmoothTalker said:Okay if it's that bad, can't you jerk off or something?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
YOU NEED TO CHILL OUT...Demystify said:seeing other people have sex makes me realize more that other people are having sex and I'm not.
Soldiers are dying left and right in wars, people are getting raped and tortured in third world countries everyday, entire villages get wiped out to genocide, children are born with AIDS, others are left to die in the street while others don't have enough to eat. One earthquake hits and 300,000 die in less than 30 seconds.Demystify said:I don't think being horny is a good thing if I'm staying up to all hours of the night with insomnia while screaming and throwing stuff around my room.
Yeah, but when you know lots of guys who get a new girl every week, it's not very helpful. I had two roommates in college who constantly got several girls. My brother lost his virginity when was 13 or 14 (as opposed to 22 when I lost it) and girls look at him and instantly like him, he doesn't have to do any work. I have a cousin my age who constantly gets girls, he even got a one night stand with a girl I had been trying for for weeks.kingsam said:YOU NEED TO CHILL OUT...
most single people do not have as much sex as you imagine...its easy to imagine every one else is getting loads if you are not ... BUT other average guys are most likely not getting as much as you are imagining they do ...
quick google shows the most average man to have 7 sexual partners / lifetime - if you say that one is a marrige, 2 are RL's of decent length , then 4 are casual/ONS. its NOT that much divided over a lifetime.
so say this average man gets hitched at 30y/o then the other 6 partners spread out over the years 18-30 isnt that much ...
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
The whole 'can't do' attitude isn't going to help.Demystify said:Yeah, but when you know lots of guys who get a new girl every week, it's not very helpful. I had two roommates in college who constantly got several girls. My brother lost his virginity when was 13 or 14 (as opposed to 22 when I lost it) and girls look at him and instantly like him, he doesn't have to do any work. I have a cousin my age who constantly gets girls, he even got a one night stand with a girl I had been trying for for weeks.
I know there are statistics that show most guys don't get laid that often, but when you know more than a few guys that are outside those statistics it hurts. And I've tried being their wingman or learning from them, and that hasn't helped either.
Where the hell do you people work out at? a strip club?San Jose California said:This is sooo true, I hate when I start benchpress or bench press with free weights and my **** will feel horny, not hard but it gets a rush of blood or something, happens almost every time I hate it.
Because....sharkybear said:Why would you want to be less horny? Being horny increases your testosterone level and makes you become more of a man. As a matter of fact, you should be horny all the time, just don't jack off.
Demystify said:I don't think being horny is a good thing if I'm staying up to all hours of the night with insomnia while screaming and throwing stuff around my room.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.