"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How to be less horny?

Demystify

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I've tried working out and other hobbies to keep my mind off it, but I still can't stop thinking about getting laid. It's pretty much all I ever think about it. How can I be less horny?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SmoothTalker

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Working out (unless it's extreme to the point of overtraining) will only make you hornier, so I'm not sure where you got that idea. Not saying you should stop though.

Why do you want to be less horny? Enjoy it while you're young, and learn to channel that drive and energy into something productive instead.

Also, get laid. That's about the only thing that will make you think less about sex.
 

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Being real horny is great... if you actually get enough p*ssy; otherwise, it's just tantalising. I suppose a good simple analogy would be that of a starving African: always hungry, but he never gets to eat to his heart's content. What a tease!

Anyway, in regard to your specific question, I don't know anything that would diminish your sex drive, other than certain SSRI antidepressants (think Zoloft and Prozac).
 

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You're a man. Being horny is your right, obligation, and duty. Revel in it or turn in your sword!

Over and Out.
 

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I don't think being horny is a good thing if I'm staying up to all hours of the night with insomnia while screaming and throwing stuff around my room.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Demystify

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SmoothTalker said:
Okay if it's that bad, can't you jerk off or something?
Well, jerking off usually makes it worse because seeing other people have sex makes me realize more that other people are having sex and I'm not. So I'm more horny because of that. I can't jerk off to pictures or my imagination, I have to have actual video porn.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Try lesbian porn or solo girls stripping & masturbating.

BTW it's pretty bad that you need video stimulation to get off.

How often do you try to approach girls?
 

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Demystify said:
seeing other people have sex makes me realize more that other people are having sex and I'm not.
YOU NEED TO CHILL OUT...
most single people do not have as much sex as you imagine...its easy to imagine every one else is getting loads if you are not ... BUT other average guys are most likely not getting as much as you are imagining they do ...

quick google shows the most average man to have 7 sexual partners / lifetime - if you say that one is a marrige, 2 are RL's of decent length , then 4 are casual/ONS. its NOT that much divided over a lifetime.
so say this average man gets hitched at 30y/o then the other 6 partners spread out over the years 18-30 isnt that much ...
 

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cutting off your balls would do it. Other than that - probably nothing. Horny is good - it means you are in good health.
 

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Demystify said:
I don't think being horny is a good thing if I'm staying up to all hours of the night with insomnia while screaming and throwing stuff around my room.
Soldiers are dying left and right in wars, people are getting raped and tortured in third world countries everyday, entire villages get wiped out to genocide, children are born with AIDS, others are left to die in the street while others don't have enough to eat. One earthquake hits and 300,000 die in less than 30 seconds.

And you can't sleep and are screaming and throwing stuff around your room because you can't get laid?

Hello logic and perspective? I may need your brain for a while since I've obviously lost mine.
 

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kingsam said:
YOU NEED TO CHILL OUT...
most single people do not have as much sex as you imagine...its easy to imagine every one else is getting loads if you are not ... BUT other average guys are most likely not getting as much as you are imagining they do ...

quick google shows the most average man to have 7 sexual partners / lifetime - if you say that one is a marrige, 2 are RL's of decent length , then 4 are casual/ONS. its NOT that much divided over a lifetime.
so say this average man gets hitched at 30y/o then the other 6 partners spread out over the years 18-30 isnt that much ...
Yeah, but when you know lots of guys who get a new girl every week, it's not very helpful. I had two roommates in college who constantly got several girls. My brother lost his virginity when was 13 or 14 (as opposed to 22 when I lost it) and girls look at him and instantly like him, he doesn't have to do any work. I have a cousin my age who constantly gets girls, he even got a one night stand with a girl I had been trying for for weeks.
I know there are statistics that show most guys don't get laid that often, but when you know more than a few guys that are outside those statistics it hurts. And I've tried being their wingman or learning from them, and that hasn't helped either.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Demystify said:
Yeah, but when you know lots of guys who get a new girl every week, it's not very helpful. I had two roommates in college who constantly got several girls. My brother lost his virginity when was 13 or 14 (as opposed to 22 when I lost it) and girls look at him and instantly like him, he doesn't have to do any work. I have a cousin my age who constantly gets girls, he even got a one night stand with a girl I had been trying for for weeks.
I know there are statistics that show most guys don't get laid that often, but when you know more than a few guys that are outside those statistics it hurts. And I've tried being their wingman or learning from them, and that hasn't helped either.
The whole 'can't do' attitude isn't going to help.

You become who you imagine yourself to be. The person who you picture in your head, is the picture that you portray in reality. You write your own script.

As long as you think of yourself lesser than your friends, the lesser you will be. Your cousin got that one night stand with that girl because he already knew he could. He already pictured it in his mind. Do you think self-confidence is some big secret? To those who have it, it comes easy because it's so easy to understand. Stop caring what others think, and think of yourself how YOU want to be. To those who don't understand, it's extremely hard because they don't WANT to believe it.

Ha now as for being horny - Don't be less horny. You are a man bro. Rape and pillage. The one thing that women can't take away is our manhood (sometimes they can). Just be careful to not let your d!ck get you into trouble.
 

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if you start getting laid this will help this problem a bit. I was the horniest kid in the universe and after i met this chick and started getting some on a constant basis my sex drive decreased noticeably.

not sure if thats the case for everyone, but im sure its common
 

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San Jose California said:
This is sooo true, I hate when I start benchpress or bench press with free weights and my **** will feel horny, not hard but it gets a rush of blood or something, happens almost every time I hate it.
Where the hell do you people work out at? a strip club?

That last thing place my body needs blood during a workout is the d1ck area
 

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Why would you want to be less horny? Being horny increases your testosterone level and makes you become more of a man. As a matter of fact, you should be horny all the time, just don't jack off.
 

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sharkybear said:
Why would you want to be less horny? Being horny increases your testosterone level and makes you become more of a man. As a matter of fact, you should be horny all the time, just don't jack off.
Because....

Demystify said:
I don't think being horny is a good thing if I'm staying up to all hours of the night with insomnia while screaming and throwing stuff around my room.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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