"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How to be a real PUA....My Last Post
- Thread starter Mukester
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Mr. Delicious
Senior Don Juan
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The dude (Mukester) was spot on in his assessment of both this site and the game in general.
Guys come here and learn what AFCs and Don Juans are and turn their lives around. But THEN they sit in their computer chairs in a stupor for months (or even YEARS!!), too afraid to venture out of their current comfort zones.
So they KNOW that there's a better life out there, but then they never go for it.
Props to Mukester for posting this.
For every one thing we're ignorant of
A thousand more things beat the maze. (yeah)
You saw the apple hanging on the tree
But missed the orchard in your gaze!
ohhhhhhh..
Say something
Make us proud
Cast the first stone
Say any, anything at all
Make a move
Excerpt from "Make a Move" by Incubus
bad_samaritan
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What he is saying is very true in regards to PU, but also in regards to LIFE. In all avenues of life, be they artistic, financial or athletic, success in attaigning goals is all about changing your attitude INSIDE. *BE* who you want to be.
Damn.
flippinfreak
Master Don Juan
awww, reminds me of myselfSaine said:I'm not a noob, been here longer than you have. Just different username.
I have amazingly high post/day count because I did it on purpose, the first day I spend 1 hr. on it, the following rest of the day I spend 15-30 min. on it, trying to make this acct as good. :0
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
THIAGO BRAZIL II
Don Juan
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