"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
how to avoid falling into scarcity mindset
- Thread starter backseatjuan
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
when i first posted on this site 2 years ago, i thought i was being a gent and a "man" (chasing) trying to put my family back together, with my ex. Too me it was responsible behaviour as we had a family........the advice on here was to do the total opposite(NC) of what i was doing , it blew my mind she was literally doing double back flips on my **** within 6 weeks...............it also sent me like the ISIS of RED PILL and abundance, its impossible for me to ever love a woman again,,therefore in this respect i am always in abundance, i am in a position now where hearing from a hotbod 8 means nothing to me, i just see right through her ......its quite sad really its a gift and a curse at the same time
backseatjuan
Banned
Fck man, that's deep. What kind of weed you smoke.
Serenity
Moderator
I don't get how other guys are so incapable of maintaining the mindset even though there's a woman involved. Sure, you won't have physical abundance, but that's not a requirement for the mindset.
A mindset is a way of thinking. Some guys depend on external factors, others like me do not.
Abundance isn't about dehumanizing women or complete inability to attach. Abundance is the ability to detach when necessary.
You have a twisted view IMO.
Serenity
Moderator
Meh, only from the perspective of those who do not have it and strongly desire it while thinking it's so damn hard, it's not.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
To me it's trusting the process. If you have kept to the DJ mindset and routines in the past and it's yielded good results why wouldn't it again. It is true that good women become rarer as they age. but statistically there are still so many women that you just have to keep swinging. And I've enjoyed all my women on some level even if it's just blessed relief to know your knowledge saved you taking a bullet.
power of the puusy, just never worked with william the conqueror