"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
how to avoid falling into scarcity mindset
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
when i first posted on this site 2 years ago, i thought i was being a gent and a "man" (chasing) trying to put my family back together, with my ex. Too me it was responsible behaviour as we had a family........the advice on here was to do the total opposite(NC) of what i was doing , it blew my mind she was literally doing double back flips on my **** within 6 weeks...............it also sent me like the ISIS of RED PILL and abundance, its impossible for me to ever love a woman again,,therefore in this respect i am always in abundance, i am in a position now where hearing from a hotbod 8 means nothing to me, i just see right through her ......its quite sad really its a gift and a curse at the same time
backseatjuan
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Fck man, that's deep. What kind of weed you smoke.
Serenity
Moderator
I don't get how other guys are so incapable of maintaining the mindset even though there's a woman involved. Sure, you won't have physical abundance, but that's not a requirement for the mindset.
A mindset is a way of thinking. Some guys depend on external factors, others like me do not.
Abundance isn't about dehumanizing women or complete inability to attach. Abundance is the ability to detach when necessary.
You have a twisted view IMO.
Serenity
Moderator
Meh, only from the perspective of those who do not have it and strongly desire it while thinking it's so damn hard, it's not.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
To me it's trusting the process. If you have kept to the DJ mindset and routines in the past and it's yielded good results why wouldn't it again. It is true that good women become rarer as they age. but statistically there are still so many women that you just have to keep swinging. And I've enjoyed all my women on some level even if it's just blessed relief to know your knowledge saved you taking a bullet.
power of the puusy, just never worked with william the conqueror