Clueless2k16
Don Juan
- Joined
- May 4, 2016
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- 40
my life is home - work - home - cafe - home
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
what do you do then?as a transplant to a foreign country, I actually have no friends to hang out with
wrong excuse
its just a small café where i go just to read the newspaper and grab a cup of coffee or a beer. not the bar with ambient music type.have you ever said hello to a woman walking past you in that cafe?
ever said "cool shoes" to the girl in front of you?
ever said "whats the deal with XYZ?" to the cashier?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
why? by seeing a bald hog with a woman or because im a bald loser that cant get any?I was feeling a little down today but now I feel fkin fantastic about my life lol
With what's going on in your head, you wouldn't be getting any if you were Brad Pitt.why? by seeing a bald hog with a woman or because im a bald loser that cant get any?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Sticky this article now.If you are truly looking for the answer, the article linked below spells it out quite well, in my opinion.
htmlhttp://www.themodernman.com/dating/articles/how-do-average-guys-get-hot-women.html
Whether you choose to focus on the actual content in the article or the pictures (in the way you did here), will speak volumes about your intent.
Is it really any surprise you're not a hit with the ladies, considering you have no social exposure and probably very little social skills?having no friend circle / social life
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.