Clueless2k16
Don Juan
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- May 4, 2016
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my life is home - work - home - cafe - home
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
what do you do then?as a transplant to a foreign country, I actually have no friends to hang out with
wrong excuse
its just a small café where i go just to read the newspaper and grab a cup of coffee or a beer. not the bar with ambient music type.have you ever said hello to a woman walking past you in that cafe?
ever said "cool shoes" to the girl in front of you?
ever said "whats the deal with XYZ?" to the cashier?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
why? by seeing a bald hog with a woman or because im a bald loser that cant get any?I was feeling a little down today but now I feel fkin fantastic about my life lol
With what's going on in your head, you wouldn't be getting any if you were Brad Pitt.why? by seeing a bald hog with a woman or because im a bald loser that cant get any?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Sticky this article now.If you are truly looking for the answer, the article linked below spells it out quite well, in my opinion.
htmlhttp://www.themodernman.com/dating/articles/how-do-average-guys-get-hot-women.html
Whether you choose to focus on the actual content in the article or the pictures (in the way you did here), will speak volumes about your intent.
Is it really any surprise you're not a hit with the ladies, considering you have no social exposure and probably very little social skills?having no friend circle / social life
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.