Clueless2k16
Don Juan
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- May 4, 2016
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- 40
my life is home - work - home - cafe - home
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
what do you do then?as a transplant to a foreign country, I actually have no friends to hang out with
wrong excuse
its just a small café where i go just to read the newspaper and grab a cup of coffee or a beer. not the bar with ambient music type.have you ever said hello to a woman walking past you in that cafe?
ever said "cool shoes" to the girl in front of you?
ever said "whats the deal with XYZ?" to the cashier?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
why? by seeing a bald hog with a woman or because im a bald loser that cant get any?I was feeling a little down today but now I feel fkin fantastic about my life lol
With what's going on in your head, you wouldn't be getting any if you were Brad Pitt.why? by seeing a bald hog with a woman or because im a bald loser that cant get any?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Sticky this article now.If you are truly looking for the answer, the article linked below spells it out quite well, in my opinion.
htmlhttp://www.themodernman.com/dating/articles/how-do-average-guys-get-hot-women.html
Whether you choose to focus on the actual content in the article or the pictures (in the way you did here), will speak volumes about your intent.
Is it really any surprise you're not a hit with the ladies, considering you have no social exposure and probably very little social skills?having no friend circle / social life
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.