Clueless2k16
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my life is home - work - home - cafe - home
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How the hell did this guy managed to do it
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
MrWood
Master Don Juan
as a transplant to a foreign country, I actually have no friends to hang out with
wrong excuse
wrong excuse
MrWood
Master Don Juan
have you ever said hello to a woman walking past you in that cafe?
ever said "cool shoes" to the girl in front of you?
ever said "whats the deal with XYZ?" to the cashier?
ever said "cool shoes" to the girl in front of you?
ever said "whats the deal with XYZ?" to the cashier?
Clueless2k16
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what do you do then?
Clueless2k16
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its just a small café where i go just to read the newspaper and grab a cup of coffee or a beer. not the bar with ambient music type.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
MrWood
Master Don Juan
and you didnt answer my questions... did you.
I ASKED YOU A QUESTION
i do/go things I just mentioned when I go for coffee, shopping, eating out
I smile at nearly every woman I see
If I had a cafe I could go to everyday at the same time, I would have too many dates.
I do not waste my time on anything under HB8 (except making all girls smile and blush at cafes no matter how hot or old)
I am not prolific in anyway, my partner count is my age and 20of those years were in LTRs/Marriage
and no, I dont get pity fvcks because of my floppy ugly arm.
I ASKED YOU A QUESTION
i do/go things I just mentioned when I go for coffee, shopping, eating out
I smile at nearly every woman I see
If I had a cafe I could go to everyday at the same time, I would have too many dates.
I do not waste my time on anything under HB8 (except making all girls smile and blush at cafes no matter how hot or old)
I am not prolific in anyway, my partner count is my age and 20of those years were in LTRs/Marriage
and no, I dont get pity fvcks because of my floppy ugly arm.
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Clueless2k16
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why? by seeing a bald hog with a woman or because im a bald loser that cant get any?
Tictac
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With what's going on in your head, you wouldn't be getting any if you were Brad Pitt.
CuddleJunkie
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stop wasting your time with this troll. I will even use this time refreshing FB before answering him.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
gonewiththefire
New Member
Hi Clueless
looks don't matter so much if you develop your personality and character. People only give a thing about you if you can provide them some kind of value. Looks can only take you so far before your personality shows.
hope it helps!
gonewiththefire
looks don't matter so much if you develop your personality and character. People only give a thing about you if you can provide them some kind of value. Looks can only take you so far before your personality shows.
hope it helps!
gonewiththefire
Clueless2k16
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i dont know im average looking and never had a chance. also the women i attract are either too old (late 40's, early 50's) or not attractive at all (i'm sure 99% of you guys wouldnt date them unless you were really really desperate) and i have my standards. if it doesnt interest me even if that means free sex i wont date her
why do these old ladies think im dating material for them?, creeps me out and its also strange i'm into 35/45 age group. maybe im a magnet for them for god knows what reason
why do these old ladies think im dating material for them?, creeps me out and its also strange i'm into 35/45 age group. maybe im a magnet for them for god knows what reason
JohnChops
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Sticky this article now.
Is it really any surprise you're not a hit with the ladies, considering you have no social exposure and probably very little social skills?
You also place way too much emphasis on "finding a woman" ... as if that's going to solve your problems and you're going to live happily ever after or something. Spoiler alert: you won't.
Here's some advice that I'm sure will go wasted, but at least I can say I tried. Get into a hobby that you're passionate about and then seek out other people who share that passion. Work on developing a social circle, the rest will follow
BeExcellent
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How the hell did he do it?
Easy.
He believed he could.
Easy.
He believed he could.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
I would ask you why you are so whimpy and why you have such low self esteem. But I realized you would say its because people called you ugly. Now I have to ask you why people called you ugly. Was it just to insult you because you perhaps did something the annoyed the everloving piss out of them? Was it because they eere jusy naturally mean people trying to be cool? Have you ever beaten the crap out of someone for pissing you off enough? I asked this last time and you did not respond. You probably never got into a fight in your life then. This just shows you how wimpy of a person you are. How emasculate and how much of a pushover you are. You are anybody's b!tch. And because of this, women are bot attracted to you. Grow a pair and toughen up. If you really think that you are ugly, then fix it. Don't get cosmetic/plastic surgery, that **** is unnatractive to chicks too. Just workout, get a ripped body, wear some nicer clothes, chew a **** ton of gum to enhance your jawline and chew hard, brush your teeth at least twice a day, eat healthier and sleep a little more if you can, repeat incantations in your head that are positive (like 'I have the greatest luck in the world' or 'I am masculine' 'I am strong and powerful' or 'I am tough', just take out all negative thoughts), if you arent bald get a new hairstyle, get your eyevrows done (not noticeably so, but just to get them to look better. I personally don't do this but I just don't really care for it), and fix your fvcking body language. Always being slouched and closed off instead of being open and embracing is pathetic, body language is huge. Also, the incantations are also very important, it's the only way that you can reprogram your brain without using drugs or alcohol. You are pretty old so I'm not sure if you might be able to, especially because adults are a lot more stubborn than younger kids (crystallized intelligence vs fluid intelligence), but you gotta at least try. I was like you once, if not worse. It took me 2 years to completely get out of that slump by fixing my mindset. And now I'm never going back to being what I once was. You shoupd fix yourself too.
'As you think, you shall become' - Pook.
'As you think, you shall become' - Pook.
