Clueless2k16
Don Juan
- Joined
- May 4, 2016
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- Age
- 40
my life is home - work - home - cafe - home
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
what do you do then?as a transplant to a foreign country, I actually have no friends to hang out with
wrong excuse
its just a small café where i go just to read the newspaper and grab a cup of coffee or a beer. not the bar with ambient music type.have you ever said hello to a woman walking past you in that cafe?
ever said "cool shoes" to the girl in front of you?
ever said "whats the deal with XYZ?" to the cashier?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
why? by seeing a bald hog with a woman or because im a bald loser that cant get any?I was feeling a little down today but now I feel fkin fantastic about my life lol
With what's going on in your head, you wouldn't be getting any if you were Brad Pitt.why? by seeing a bald hog with a woman or because im a bald loser that cant get any?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Sticky this article now.If you are truly looking for the answer, the article linked below spells it out quite well, in my opinion.
htmlhttp://www.themodernman.com/dating/articles/how-do-average-guys-get-hot-women.html
Whether you choose to focus on the actual content in the article or the pictures (in the way you did here), will speak volumes about your intent.
Is it really any surprise you're not a hit with the ladies, considering you have no social exposure and probably very little social skills?having no friend circle / social life
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.