Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Well I can understand her not remembering me since I never spoke to her and just friended her since I met her at a friends party. I figure why not give it one more shot, best case I get something worst case i'm where i'm at now.ZenGodMod said:That was a whole load of trash talk!
You even entertained that!?
If someone ever ask who you are again, just know you haven't made a good first impression! Don't bother!
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Try asking for starters.TheBaconator said:Well I tried the ****y response but I think it came off as too much
Me:You don't see the name at the top of my page? Think I met you a long time ago. How bout you gimme ya sn.
Her:yeah i do but do u think ur the only *** in this world obviously i still dunno by the name i didnt recognize u so i asked duhh lol maybe from *** because im her friend
Me:Well yea it's *** and I prolly met you at a party at *** back in the day.
No response from her after that. I think she has interest because why else would she respond in the first place? If she doesn't get back to me imma make one more go at it, nothing to lose, any suggestions how I should try again to get sn/number? Like what I should say.