You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Well I can understand her not remembering me since I never spoke to her and just friended her since I met her at a friends party. I figure why not give it one more shot, best case I get something worst case i'm where i'm at now.ZenGodMod said:That was a whole load of trash talk!
You even entertained that!?
If someone ever ask who you are again, just know you haven't made a good first impression! Don't bother!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Try asking for starters.TheBaconator said:Well I tried the ****y response but I think it came off as too much
Me:You don't see the name at the top of my page? Think I met you a long time ago. How bout you gimme ya sn.
Her:yeah i do but do u think ur the only *** in this world obviously i still dunno by the name i didnt recognize u so i asked duhh lol maybe from *** because im her friend
Me:Well yea it's *** and I prolly met you at a party at *** back in the day.
No response from her after that. I think she has interest because why else would she respond in the first place? If she doesn't get back to me imma make one more go at it, nothing to lose, any suggestions how I should try again to get sn/number? Like what I should say.