Josh Davidson
Senior Don Juan
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- Mar 21, 2021
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The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Approaches are one thing and choosing signals are another.That's interesting. I would have thought it to be many times a day.
Approached per se? I agree with the above 100%.Approaches are one thing and choosing signals are another.
Most women dont get approached everyday but they get many choosing signals from men who are too scared to approach. A stare, a smile, a nod, a wolf whistle, a shout from inside a moving car, that sort of thing.
You’re absolutely correct.Approached per se? I agree with the above 100%.
That being said, what I have seen happen many zillion times is that women will be trying to take care of business or do something in a public place and they get treated differently by men who interact with them in the course of what's going on. For example, a hot woman in a grocery store might ask a male employee "Where is the frozen pizza isle?" Rather than the dude just say "Isle 6, left side", the guy will walk her there. Stare at her with bug eyes the whole time. Tell her how much he likes pizza too. If another coworker comes up he might nit pick the coworker in order to try and impress her.. All of this rather than just say "Isle 6, left side", like he would have to a male customer or fugly woman.
I think you're over generalizing a bit. I've done this countless times. Dudes and females show me rather than just tell me.Approached per se? I agree with the above 100%.
That being said, what I have seen happen many zillion times is that women will be trying to take care of business or do something in a public place and they get treated differently by men who interact with them in the course of what's going on. For example, a hot woman in a grocery store might ask a male employee "Where is the frozen pizza isle?" Rather than the dude just say "Isle 6, left side", the guy will walk her there. Stare at her with bug eyes the whole time. Tell her how much he likes pizza too. If another coworker comes up he might nit pick the coworker in order to try and impress her.. All of this rather than just say "Isle 6, left side", like he would have to a male customer or fugly woman.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yeah but they don’t stare at your tits with bug eyes and a stiffie.I think you're over generalizing a bit. I've done this countless times. Dudes and females show me rather than just tell me.
Pecks, not tits.Yeah but they don’t stare at your tits with bug eyes and a stiffie.