Do you still feel a strong attraction to her after what she shared with you? To be honest that would kill any sense of attraction I had for her. Argue that it's not her fault all you like, I even agree but I wouldn't want to deal with that baggage.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Well, my attraction was formulated from a brief social interaction followed by watching her grind on another chick the rest of the night, so it isn't as if I was ready to sell my car to buy her a ringcomote said:That doesn't sound like the type of attraction I thought you were talking about. There are many girls/women whom I would love to just have sex with. But what I thought you were talking about was the type of attraction that could lead to one-itis if you weren't careful.
Well, when you spend all your time in strip joints, what do you expect?STR8UP said:I seem to attract my share of the strippers for some reason.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I dont remember if it was on the discovery chanel or one of my bio classes. But I remember them saying there is a natural mating cycle, which takes about 1.5 years... and explains why after this mark a lot of relationships go sour.. Evolutionary speaking you need to be with women long enough to help her through her pregnancy and early baby development.. i.e. during breast feeding when she has hard time getting food on own and needs to attend to babys. so babys survived when father there to help, and genetics which such traits got passed on... it is why if you and other mate dont have much in common, after 1.5 years honeymoon is over..STR8UP said:True to my pattern (been out of a relationship for about 1.5 yrs),
Honestly, I don't much care for them. It's kinda like McDonalds.....it's a once a year thing for me.MatureDJ said:Well, when you spend all your time in strip joints, what do you expect?:rockon: