Do you still feel a strong attraction to her after what she shared with you? To be honest that would kill any sense of attraction I had for her. Argue that it's not her fault all you like, I even agree but I wouldn't want to deal with that baggage.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Well, my attraction was formulated from a brief social interaction followed by watching her grind on another chick the rest of the night, so it isn't as if I was ready to sell my car to buy her a ringcomote said:That doesn't sound like the type of attraction I thought you were talking about. There are many girls/women whom I would love to just have sex with. But what I thought you were talking about was the type of attraction that could lead to one-itis if you weren't careful.
Well, when you spend all your time in strip joints, what do you expect?STR8UP said:I seem to attract my share of the strippers for some reason.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I dont remember if it was on the discovery chanel or one of my bio classes. But I remember them saying there is a natural mating cycle, which takes about 1.5 years... and explains why after this mark a lot of relationships go sour.. Evolutionary speaking you need to be with women long enough to help her through her pregnancy and early baby development.. i.e. during breast feeding when she has hard time getting food on own and needs to attend to babys. so babys survived when father there to help, and genetics which such traits got passed on... it is why if you and other mate dont have much in common, after 1.5 years honeymoon is over..STR8UP said:True to my pattern (been out of a relationship for about 1.5 yrs),
Honestly, I don't much care for them. It's kinda like McDonalds.....it's a once a year thing for me.MatureDJ said:Well, when you spend all your time in strip joints, what do you expect?:rockon: