Do you still feel a strong attraction to her after what she shared with you? To be honest that would kill any sense of attraction I had for her. Argue that it's not her fault all you like, I even agree but I wouldn't want to deal with that baggage.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How often do you meet a woman you are REALLY attracted to? Just met the latest.....
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That doesn't sound like the type of attraction I thought you were talking about. There are many girls/women whom I would love to just have sex with. But what I thought you were talking about was the type of attraction that could lead to one-itis if you weren't careful.
Well, my attraction was formulated from a brief social interaction followed by watching her grind on another chick the rest of the night, so it isn't as if I was ready to sell my car to buy her a ringcomote said:
Nah, it's a physical thing. I'm sure most men would fukk her in about a second, but she isn't a "10" or anything. There's just something about her look that does it for me. And thats a surprise since she isn't a brunette.
Now I just have to figure out a way to hit it that won't involve me having to take out a restraining order :nervous:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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NOTE: ever see someone again, find them attractive and think, wow, why havent i noticed them before.. That is because while your in your honeymoon state you have tunnel vision..
well thats one theory... i seem to be also on a 1.5 to 2 year as well... I used to think its because im picky and it takes that long for me to find someone (i.e. numbers).... but the bio stuff really seams to make ence
I dont remember if it was on the discovery chanel or one of my bio classes. But I remember them saying there is a natural mating cycle, which takes about 1.5 years... and explains why after this mark a lot of relationships go sour.. Evolutionary speaking you need to be with women long enough to help her through her pregnancy and early baby development.. i.e. during breast feeding when she has hard time getting food on own and needs to attend to babys. so babys survived when father there to help, and genetics which such traits got passed on... it is why if you and other mate dont have much in common, after 1.5 years honeymoon is over..STR8UP said:
NOTE: ever see someone again, find them attractive and think, wow, why havent i noticed them before.. That is because while your in your honeymoon state you have tunnel vision..
well thats one theory... i seem to be also on a 1.5 to 2 year as well... I used to think its because im picky and it takes that long for me to find someone (i.e. numbers).... but the bio stuff really seams to make ence