Do you still feel a strong attraction to her after what she shared with you? To be honest that would kill any sense of attraction I had for her. Argue that it's not her fault all you like, I even agree but I wouldn't want to deal with that baggage.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Well, my attraction was formulated from a brief social interaction followed by watching her grind on another chick the rest of the night, so it isn't as if I was ready to sell my car to buy her a ringcomote said:That doesn't sound like the type of attraction I thought you were talking about. There are many girls/women whom I would love to just have sex with. But what I thought you were talking about was the type of attraction that could lead to one-itis if you weren't careful.
Well, when you spend all your time in strip joints, what do you expect?STR8UP said:I seem to attract my share of the strippers for some reason.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I dont remember if it was on the discovery chanel or one of my bio classes. But I remember them saying there is a natural mating cycle, which takes about 1.5 years... and explains why after this mark a lot of relationships go sour.. Evolutionary speaking you need to be with women long enough to help her through her pregnancy and early baby development.. i.e. during breast feeding when she has hard time getting food on own and needs to attend to babys. so babys survived when father there to help, and genetics which such traits got passed on... it is why if you and other mate dont have much in common, after 1.5 years honeymoon is over..STR8UP said:True to my pattern (been out of a relationship for about 1.5 yrs),
Honestly, I don't much care for them. It's kinda like McDonalds.....it's a once a year thing for me.MatureDJ said:Well, when you spend all your time in strip joints, what do you expect?:rockon: