Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
How Many Women?
- Thread starter Desdinova
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
On the other end of the spectrum, anything more than 2 would be overkill now. I would rather work towards making that first million than trying to date 3 chicks at the same time. 2 on the other hand could work out I think. But lets not get crazy, I need to get past that zero I was talking about earlier!
plan of action? Keep being social. I go out occasionally on weekends and mingle with friends of friends. I go to bike classes as well during the week. I find with every place I move to as a new person, it takes a while to acclimate. Everything is still in the acclimation phase.
The Mad Ghost
Senior Don Juan
Nygard
Senior Don Juan
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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After doing this for a while, having "plates" is no big deal, but I'm not dating anybody that's blowing my mind.Desdinova said:
That said, I have 2 girls on the go, plus another girl that moved clear across the country that is coming back soon that has some serious plans for us. I have zero girls that I'm actually interested in. I can't even remember the last time I asked a girl out, they ask me out. Cool thing is that they're up for anything. Doesn't get much easier than that.
Not that I'm even looking for a relationship or sex for that matter, but it would be nice to just meet a woman that was nice looking that isn't a nutjob or just a total airhead. An attractive, "quality" girl won't make me go AFC overnight or anything, but they are definitely a rare breed. When one comes along you realize how ridiculous it is to even be attracted to the typical american woman. And its even more ridiculous to look back to my younger days when I would daydream about girls. Now they daydream about me.
If you're a guy with zero options, period, then you have a lot to improve on. This has got to be maybe 10% of guys. But I think for most guys, there is some girl somewhere that is thinking about you right now. She may not be your ideal girl, but she is AFC over you nevertheless. Whether you think so or not, that IS an option for you, you're just deciding not take it. Nothing wrong with that, but take that into consideration if you're feeling crappy about your perceived lack of options. What you lack is "quality options". I think most of us lack that because quality is subjective. I think if you ever get to the point where you think you have a lot of quality options, then you should probably reassess your standards and your qualifying approach.
I'd be interested in hearing from guys that have 5+ plates and what they consider to actually be a "plate". If you are actually having sex with 5+ plates, then how often? And what's your motivation for doing it? To me that's a lot of time invested when I can take care of myself at home in just a few minutes and have zero complications or drama. I'm curious how much of your time is devoted to spinning these plates.
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
Serialized3
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damn i feel 21 all over again!
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.