"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How Many Women?

How Many Women Are You Dating

  • 0

    Votes: 17 39.5%
  • 1

    Votes: 14 32.6%
  • 2

    Votes: 6 14.0%
  • 3

    Votes: 3 7.0%
  • 4

    Votes: 1 2.3%
  • 5 or more

    Votes: 2 4.7%

  • Total voters
    43

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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synergy1

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I am shamefully at zero. Yes, a big fat zero. Potentially one on the side for casual hookups.

On the other end of the spectrum, anything more than 2 would be overkill now. I would rather work towards making that first million than trying to date 3 chicks at the same time. 2 on the other hand could work out I think. But lets not get crazy, I need to get past that zero I was talking about earlier!

plan of action? Keep being social. I go out occasionally on weekends and mingle with friends of friends. I go to bike classes as well during the week. I find with every place I move to as a new person, it takes a while to acclimate. Everything is still in the acclimation phase.
 

mpimpin

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Two, but I'm phasing one out. Hell I think I'm phasing both out I'm swamped right now with work and school papers/exams. Can't wait for summer at least I'll probably have my weekends free...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Strelok

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I see too many zeros so i reserve myself the right to vote in few days to make sure the level wont grow anymore :whistle:
 

mikeyb

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Da-yum!! And I thought I was the only one who was gonna vote zero. :whistle:
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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KingofHearts

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Desdinova said:
How many women do you currently have on the go?
After doing this for a while, having "plates" is no big deal, but I'm not dating anybody that's blowing my mind.

That said, I have 2 girls on the go, plus another girl that moved clear across the country that is coming back soon that has some serious plans for us. I have zero girls that I'm actually interested in. I can't even remember the last time I asked a girl out, they ask me out. Cool thing is that they're up for anything. Doesn't get much easier than that.

Not that I'm even looking for a relationship or sex for that matter, but it would be nice to just meet a woman that was nice looking that isn't a nutjob or just a total airhead. An attractive, "quality" girl won't make me go AFC overnight or anything, but they are definitely a rare breed. When one comes along you realize how ridiculous it is to even be attracted to the typical american woman. And its even more ridiculous to look back to my younger days when I would daydream about girls. Now they daydream about me.

If you're a guy with zero options, period, then you have a lot to improve on. This has got to be maybe 10% of guys. But I think for most guys, there is some girl somewhere that is thinking about you right now. She may not be your ideal girl, but she is AFC over you nevertheless. Whether you think so or not, that IS an option for you, you're just deciding not take it. Nothing wrong with that, but take that into consideration if you're feeling crappy about your perceived lack of options. What you lack is "quality options". I think most of us lack that because quality is subjective. I think if you ever get to the point where you think you have a lot of quality options, then you should probably reassess your standards and your qualifying approach.

I'd be interested in hearing from guys that have 5+ plates and what they consider to actually be a "plate". If you are actually having sex with 5+ plates, then how often? And what's your motivation for doing it? To me that's a lot of time invested when I can take care of myself at home in just a few minutes and have zero complications or drama. I'm curious how much of your time is devoted to spinning these plates.
 

Serialized3

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having a stellar spring - just dumped 1, now seeing 3 (1 semi-seriously) ... spinning plates definitely has a snowball effect...


damn i feel 21 all over again! :up:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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BigJimbo

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San Jose California said:
you're RIGHT, ALL DJ'S DO IS BANG GIRLS IN THE FIRST HOUR CUZ THAT IS THE MEANING OF LIFE AND ONCE YOU HAVE REACHED 1,000 ONE NIGHT STANDS YOU REACH A FEELING OF ETERNAL HAPPINESS AND HARMONY, LET US ALL FOLLOW THE DJ BIBLE LIKE THE NERD FANBOYS WE ARE AS IF IT'S A REAL BIBLE WRITTEN IN BIBLICAL TIMES

Hell yeah! Just BANG. That what I be talkin' bout.
 

Credos

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San Jose California said:
I was being sarcastic, just to be clear. That's a description of what everyone on this site thinks like.
everyone includes you...
 

BigJimbo

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If you want to bang you must think bang. When you get up the first thing I want you to say is, "Today I am going to BANG!" Repeat that mantra. When you open a door yell, "BANG". Think it - Be it.
 

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All you need is one good one. Two will complicate things sooner or later. I can't imagine more than two.
 
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