"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How Many Women?
- Thread starter Desdinova
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
On the other end of the spectrum, anything more than 2 would be overkill now. I would rather work towards making that first million than trying to date 3 chicks at the same time. 2 on the other hand could work out I think. But lets not get crazy, I need to get past that zero I was talking about earlier!
plan of action? Keep being social. I go out occasionally on weekends and mingle with friends of friends. I go to bike classes as well during the week. I find with every place I move to as a new person, it takes a while to acclimate. Everything is still in the acclimation phase.
The Mad Ghost
Senior Don Juan
Nygard
Senior Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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After doing this for a while, having "plates" is no big deal, but I'm not dating anybody that's blowing my mind.Desdinova said:
That said, I have 2 girls on the go, plus another girl that moved clear across the country that is coming back soon that has some serious plans for us. I have zero girls that I'm actually interested in. I can't even remember the last time I asked a girl out, they ask me out. Cool thing is that they're up for anything. Doesn't get much easier than that.
Not that I'm even looking for a relationship or sex for that matter, but it would be nice to just meet a woman that was nice looking that isn't a nutjob or just a total airhead. An attractive, "quality" girl won't make me go AFC overnight or anything, but they are definitely a rare breed. When one comes along you realize how ridiculous it is to even be attracted to the typical american woman. And its even more ridiculous to look back to my younger days when I would daydream about girls. Now they daydream about me.
If you're a guy with zero options, period, then you have a lot to improve on. This has got to be maybe 10% of guys. But I think for most guys, there is some girl somewhere that is thinking about you right now. She may not be your ideal girl, but she is AFC over you nevertheless. Whether you think so or not, that IS an option for you, you're just deciding not take it. Nothing wrong with that, but take that into consideration if you're feeling crappy about your perceived lack of options. What you lack is "quality options". I think most of us lack that because quality is subjective. I think if you ever get to the point where you think you have a lot of quality options, then you should probably reassess your standards and your qualifying approach.
I'd be interested in hearing from guys that have 5+ plates and what they consider to actually be a "plate". If you are actually having sex with 5+ plates, then how often? And what's your motivation for doing it? To me that's a lot of time invested when I can take care of myself at home in just a few minutes and have zero complications or drama. I'm curious how much of your time is devoted to spinning these plates.
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
Serialized3
Master Don Juan
damn i feel 21 all over again!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.