how many oppurtunities do you have to impress a girl?

[tsmith2334]

how many chances do you have to impress a girl?

on average... how many dates would you say you have to really wow a girl before she loses interest totally... my guess would be between 1 and 3 (depending on the girl)...

what's the verdict here?

 

[Bvbidd]

Yeah. But then if you cut contact and wait awhile, you usually can get a second chance.

 

[tsmith2334]

Yeah. But then if you cut contact and wait awhile, you usually can get a second chance.

You know what I was thinking the same thing... any one else have an estimate to how many "chances" your given?

 

[Monkey]

Yeah. But then if you cut contact and wait awhile, you usually can get a second chance.

Cutting contact and waiting a while won't increase her interest level IF it was low after date one. Shes already forgotten about you and dating other guys...

 

[The Sperminator]

Usually one shot.

 

[Bvbidd]

I'm not talking about some random stranger and no it won't increase her interest level, She'll just give you another chance.

 

[tsmith2334]

Usually one shot.

oh yea? just one shot?

i guess it all depends... what if you didn't "wow" her but she enjoyed herself and had a fun time?

 

[ElStud]

I never try to impress girls, I don't need to.

 

[reset]

Aren't you supposed to hope the girl will end up impressing you?

 

[Bonhomme]

reset stole the words right from my typing finger...

 

[hbxdoode]

depend on the girl... if she's a slut and wants sex if you dont wow her the first time then you're done. but if she's a sweet girl, maybe it'll take some time to actually get to know someone, then perhaps you'll get more chances

 

[tsmith2334]

Aren't you supposed to hope the girl will end up impressing you?

i know i know, and i know your supposed to date as many girls as possible.. but if your particularly interested in one (just a healthy interest) you want to get their attention too...

i'm just wondering, how many dates are you capable of landing until the girl "nexts" you.. in other words your just not cutting it to her liking... (worst case scenario, obviously).. 1? 2?

and can you lay low for a little while and spark interest again down the road?

 

[NickSCFC2000]

You should think about it the other way around, you want the girl to wow you.

Your dates will go alot better if you think of it that way instead.

 

[tsmith2334]

You should think about it the other way around, you want the girl to wow you.

Your dates will go alot better if you think of it that way instead.

Advice taken! But, here's the thing... it wasn't like a blind date or anything.. I knew the girl pretty well... she finally broke things off with her boyfriend... and I took her out to dinner... so I kind of viewed it as my big chance...

and while things went pretty well and I'm sure she had a fun time (she contacted me first a few hours later, thanking me and saying she had a good time)... i doubt the "wow" factor was there (due to my nervousness, missing the ex, etc.)...

which is pretty much the basis of what i'm wondering here... are girls quick to give out second (or third) chances for you to steal their heart?

 

[Bvbidd]

If you sit on your ass and wait for her to impress you then she'll think your boring and move on.

Don't listen to these guys, they have no idea.

In the end, your still working for her pvssy. Sorry that's just how it works.

Thinking your so great doesn't do much if your not actually great.

 

[tsmith2334]

If you sit on your ass and wait for her to impress you then she'll think your boring and move on.

Don't listen to these guys, they have no idea.

In the end, your still working for her pvssy. Sorry that's just how it works.

Thinking your so great doesn't do much if your not actually great.

hey, if you don't mind, read what i posted above and let me know what you think i can do to increase my chances of a second date... maybe she has no problems with a second date at all and i'm just paranoid... right now, i'm just taking it easy... we both go to different colleges... so i contact her once every couple of weeks so she doesn't forget about me completely

 

[Bvbidd]

I think you can relax and that she'll do a second date. She sent you that txt out of nowhere. Just ask her along somewhere.

 

[tsmith2334]

I think you can relax and that she'll do a second date. She sent you that txt out of nowhere. Just ask her along somewhere.

it was an IM, that still cool? i was away & idle.. it was like 11ish (we were done with dinner at 7) and i got it the next morning. she said "thank youuu i had a good time!!!" <-exclamation points and all

i've texted her since then and she's replied so perhaps it is all gravy..

thanks for the reassurance by the way

oh and anyone else with advice, feel free to drop some DJ knowledge

 

[sam3083]

After being in the game a while, my opinion has begun to resemble Bvbidd's;

If you sit on your ass and wait for her to impress you then she'll think your boring and move on.

Don't listen to these guys, they have no idea.

In the end, your still working for her pvssy. Sorry that's just how it works.

Thinking your so great doesn't do much if your not actually great.

You really have to do something, or the chick will just think your boring. It's all well and good to "be the prize", but you have to work your ass off to make the first attraction. Then worry about disinterest, and whatever.

 

[reset]

i know i know, and i know your supposed to date as many girls as possible..

I'm not just giving you stock answers here. It really IS about how they can impress you. When you qualify a girl, it sets you up as a challenge, and it makes it fun for her as she works to earn your attention.

Girls know right away if they want you or not, at least on that gut, primal level. You don't have to work your ass off at anything. That's just totally backwards.

Doing this stuff IS how you impress her. Don't ever qualify yourself to a girl. That's not how nature works.