You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Bill starr is a solid program. Big & quick strength/mass gains.Incubus said:So I just got back from the Y and it's weird. Everytime I work out, after I'm done I feel great and I'm like I could never give this up. But then sometimes at nights I think about sh*t like what I typed last night. Maybe it's laziness that hits me when I think of getting up and going to work out lol. But then I realize how great it feels to be in shape and to be stronger than your average joe.
Oh and I do full body workouts now. I lift 3 times a week and run twice.....I'm doing Bill Starr's 5x5 (found it on the bodybuilding.com forum if any of you are familiar) which is basically a strength program that focuses on the big core lifts, squats, deadlift, bench, and rows.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Espi,Espi said:I feel that way sometimes, and it's perfectly normal. If workoing out felt great all the time, more people would likely be doing it.
I have spent months merely going through the motions in the gym, feeling tired and depressed, not seeing any gains whatsoever. But I feel I've worked out long enough to know that it's worth the time and effort.
You did? How did you like it? How old were you when you did it? From what I've seen it's pretty political. One thing I did notice though while I was at my buddies contest(placed 2nd) is that EVERY chick there was hot or at least in shape.stronglifts said:I did bodybuilding during my first years.
I never competed lol. What I mean is that I lifted weight for bodybuilding purposes: didn't care about the weight I lifted, only cared about being ripped & getting the muscles pumped.blinkwatt said:You did? How did you like it? How old were you when you did it? From what I've seen it's pretty political. One thing I did notice though while I was at my buddies contest(placed 2nd) is that EVERY chick there was hot or at least in shape.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:speakeasy said:I think part of being a DJ is not only being able to get girls, but also being able to dominate other men.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That's quite a bold statement. Any pics?backbreaker said:I'm in better shape than probably 98% of the population
Ok, I don't mean to start anything, but I've just been thinking a lot lately. First of all, I work out all the time....still. In high school I made all conference in baseball and football, and outlifted most of the linemen as a linebacker/safety. So I've kept working out this last year and this summer. But lately I've been wondering what's the point. Before I had a motivation to get stronger and faster so I could be a better athlete. Well, I don't play sports anymore, as I'm a full time student at wisconsin. Also, competing against my teammates to see who could lift more was awesome, but now I have no teammates.
Lately when I work out I still love the feeling, but at the end of the day I'm not sure why I do it anymore. So I can bench 280 pounds....so what? It seems to me like it doesn't matter anymore. lol not to mention squats...why bother anymore? Not only that but it's a hassle sometimes....I don't work as much as I could to make time to work out, and I go to bed early in the summertime (well, earlyish, 12-1am) to get up at 9 and go workout. Not to mention that I could be making more money in that time, or pursuing my other passion, music.
I'm not saying I'd be a total bum, as I'd still eat healthy and stay active with recreational sports...but even then do girls really care about a guy being ripped as opposed to just toned?
By the way, I've never worked out to get girls, I've always done it for me. Sorry if this is pointless, I just feel kinda down right now and trying to see if I'm doing the right decisions with my life and I guess I needed to get this out.
if you don't lift weights, how will you be strong enough to actually move your **** with your own hand; great reason to working out. Heck, if you don't lift BRO, you won't have the strength to get your pants off. JUST NOTICED THAT THE WORD D I C K WAS CENSORED; that could be offensive, there's people whom d i c k is their name. NOT PC, PC POLICE, NO NO NO!!!!!jacking off in front of a mirror is more enjoyable
Never lift, that's the quickest way to shift gears, not sure if it's good for the engine or transmission but hey, you're either first or last.I lift for looks. That being said, lifting I think develops more than just muscles. It builds discipline and devotion. And its been said that excercise makes you feel better. I wholeheartedly agree with that.
Genetics play a VERY big role in the effectiveness or even the overall ability to endure a session. your bone structure, vascular system, hormones, and other factors, can play a role in it. I used to workout 3-5 days a week and eat pretty damn near perfect and in 3 months i was only able to max out 15 more pounds and hardly gained any muscle. I burn calories so fast that my body barely has the ability to sustain a healthy weight under perfect circumstances. I've given up with it. If the hard work i put in actually had any real effect on my health then i could see working out modestly. Short and not very good looking for starters and to not being able to really gain good weight, it's hopeless. Working is only worth it per individual; if a guy works out and succeeds with it, then good on them, it's not for me. Maybe I have a health condition I don't know of and hopefully will have cancer some day.I go to the gym regularly. Both for fitness and for vanity. I also do mixed martial arts to stay in shape and that helps with confidence knowing I could kick the average person's ass if I was in a bar fight. I think part of being a DJ is not only being able to get girls, but also being able to dominate other men. So a DJ should know how to handle himself in a physical conflict if the situation comes up. Women like guys that make them feel protected.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.