Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Bill starr is a solid program. Big & quick strength/mass gains.Incubus said:So I just got back from the Y and it's weird. Everytime I work out, after I'm done I feel great and I'm like I could never give this up. But then sometimes at nights I think about sh*t like what I typed last night. Maybe it's laziness that hits me when I think of getting up and going to work out lol. But then I realize how great it feels to be in shape and to be stronger than your average joe.
Oh and I do full body workouts now. I lift 3 times a week and run twice.....I'm doing Bill Starr's 5x5 (found it on the bodybuilding.com forum if any of you are familiar) which is basically a strength program that focuses on the big core lifts, squats, deadlift, bench, and rows.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Espi,Espi said:I feel that way sometimes, and it's perfectly normal. If workoing out felt great all the time, more people would likely be doing it.
I have spent months merely going through the motions in the gym, feeling tired and depressed, not seeing any gains whatsoever. But I feel I've worked out long enough to know that it's worth the time and effort.
You did? How did you like it? How old were you when you did it? From what I've seen it's pretty political. One thing I did notice though while I was at my buddies contest(placed 2nd) is that EVERY chick there was hot or at least in shape.stronglifts said:I did bodybuilding during my first years.
I never competed lol. What I mean is that I lifted weight for bodybuilding purposes: didn't care about the weight I lifted, only cared about being ripped & getting the muscles pumped.blinkwatt said:You did? How did you like it? How old were you when you did it? From what I've seen it's pretty political. One thing I did notice though while I was at my buddies contest(placed 2nd) is that EVERY chick there was hot or at least in shape.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:speakeasy said:I think part of being a DJ is not only being able to get girls, but also being able to dominate other men.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That's quite a bold statement. Any pics?backbreaker said:I'm in better shape than probably 98% of the population
Ok, I don't mean to start anything, but I've just been thinking a lot lately. First of all, I work out all the time....still. In high school I made all conference in baseball and football, and outlifted most of the linemen as a linebacker/safety. So I've kept working out this last year and this summer. But lately I've been wondering what's the point. Before I had a motivation to get stronger and faster so I could be a better athlete. Well, I don't play sports anymore, as I'm a full time student at wisconsin. Also, competing against my teammates to see who could lift more was awesome, but now I have no teammates.
Lately when I work out I still love the feeling, but at the end of the day I'm not sure why I do it anymore. So I can bench 280 pounds....so what? It seems to me like it doesn't matter anymore. lol not to mention squats...why bother anymore? Not only that but it's a hassle sometimes....I don't work as much as I could to make time to work out, and I go to bed early in the summertime (well, earlyish, 12-1am) to get up at 9 and go workout. Not to mention that I could be making more money in that time, or pursuing my other passion, music.
I'm not saying I'd be a total bum, as I'd still eat healthy and stay active with recreational sports...but even then do girls really care about a guy being ripped as opposed to just toned?
By the way, I've never worked out to get girls, I've always done it for me. Sorry if this is pointless, I just feel kinda down right now and trying to see if I'm doing the right decisions with my life and I guess I needed to get this out.
if you don't lift weights, how will you be strong enough to actually move your **** with your own hand; great reason to working out. Heck, if you don't lift BRO, you won't have the strength to get your pants off. JUST NOTICED THAT THE WORD D I C K WAS CENSORED; that could be offensive, there's people whom d i c k is their name. NOT PC, PC POLICE, NO NO NO!!!!!jacking off in front of a mirror is more enjoyable
Never lift, that's the quickest way to shift gears, not sure if it's good for the engine or transmission but hey, you're either first or last.I lift for looks. That being said, lifting I think develops more than just muscles. It builds discipline and devotion. And its been said that excercise makes you feel better. I wholeheartedly agree with that.
Genetics play a VERY big role in the effectiveness or even the overall ability to endure a session. your bone structure, vascular system, hormones, and other factors, can play a role in it. I used to workout 3-5 days a week and eat pretty damn near perfect and in 3 months i was only able to max out 15 more pounds and hardly gained any muscle. I burn calories so fast that my body barely has the ability to sustain a healthy weight under perfect circumstances. I've given up with it. If the hard work i put in actually had any real effect on my health then i could see working out modestly. Short and not very good looking for starters and to not being able to really gain good weight, it's hopeless. Working is only worth it per individual; if a guy works out and succeeds with it, then good on them, it's not for me. Maybe I have a health condition I don't know of and hopefully will have cancer some day.I go to the gym regularly. Both for fitness and for vanity. I also do mixed martial arts to stay in shape and that helps with confidence knowing I could kick the average person's ass if I was in a bar fight. I think part of being a DJ is not only being able to get girls, but also being able to dominate other men. So a DJ should know how to handle himself in a physical conflict if the situation comes up. Women like guys that make them feel protected.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.