escaleraroyal
Master Don Juan
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I did 9 already in June and all flaked.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
most women will give their number to 3 or 4 dudes a day during the week and 10 or more on the weekend.. thats why as men we experience soo many flakes cause she has to many options so competition factors com into play and luck and timing.. then females can only F so many dudes in a certain time so some have to fall out..escaleraroyal said:I did 9 already in June and all flaked.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
^Could be articulated a little smoother, but I definitely agree.Mr Wright said:This is the kind of thread which is hurtful to most guys. Its just as bad as the "how many girls have you laid"...i believe that if you get one number, its solid and you build a great connection, thats far more impressive than getting 100 flakey pieces of crap from girls you dont even remember or care about. A guy just getting into this will read guys getting 50 odd numbers while hes getting maybe 2-3 and think that hes got to get that many numbers when in reality getting 2-3 numbers is probably good for him.
I swear some guys on here only post to show off and get validation from other guys saying "bro you're so cool you got with that HB10" when in reality she was probably not that hot and he didn't even feel that good about it after but still felt the need to brag about it on the internet.
Numbers are numbers...connections are much better.
haha i know, i never proof read or write anything im one sitting.LE6END said:^Could be articulated a little smoother, but I definitely agree.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.