escaleraroyal
Master Don Juan
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I did 9 already in June and all flaked.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
most women will give their number to 3 or 4 dudes a day during the week and 10 or more on the weekend.. thats why as men we experience soo many flakes cause she has to many options so competition factors com into play and luck and timing.. then females can only F so many dudes in a certain time so some have to fall out..escaleraroyal said:I did 9 already in June and all flaked.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
^Could be articulated a little smoother, but I definitely agree.Mr Wright said:This is the kind of thread which is hurtful to most guys. Its just as bad as the "how many girls have you laid"...i believe that if you get one number, its solid and you build a great connection, thats far more impressive than getting 100 flakey pieces of crap from girls you dont even remember or care about. A guy just getting into this will read guys getting 50 odd numbers while hes getting maybe 2-3 and think that hes got to get that many numbers when in reality getting 2-3 numbers is probably good for him.
I swear some guys on here only post to show off and get validation from other guys saying "bro you're so cool you got with that HB10" when in reality she was probably not that hot and he didn't even feel that good about it after but still felt the need to brag about it on the internet.
Numbers are numbers...connections are much better.
haha i know, i never proof read or write anything im one sitting.LE6END said:^Could be articulated a little smoother, but I definitely agree.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.