escaleraroyal
Master Don Juan
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I did 9 already in June and all flaked.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
most women will give their number to 3 or 4 dudes a day during the week and 10 or more on the weekend.. thats why as men we experience soo many flakes cause she has to many options so competition factors com into play and luck and timing.. then females can only F so many dudes in a certain time so some have to fall out..escaleraroyal said:I did 9 already in June and all flaked.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
^Could be articulated a little smoother, but I definitely agree.Mr Wright said:This is the kind of thread which is hurtful to most guys. Its just as bad as the "how many girls have you laid"...i believe that if you get one number, its solid and you build a great connection, thats far more impressive than getting 100 flakey pieces of crap from girls you dont even remember or care about. A guy just getting into this will read guys getting 50 odd numbers while hes getting maybe 2-3 and think that hes got to get that many numbers when in reality getting 2-3 numbers is probably good for him.
I swear some guys on here only post to show off and get validation from other guys saying "bro you're so cool you got with that HB10" when in reality she was probably not that hot and he didn't even feel that good about it after but still felt the need to brag about it on the internet.
Numbers are numbers...connections are much better.
haha i know, i never proof read or write anything im one sitting.LE6END said:^Could be articulated a little smoother, but I definitely agree.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.