"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How many chicks have you slept with?

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70 ish

Who really cares, though. It's just a number. Most people would rather have slept with prime Adriana Lima and megan Fox in '2 and a half men' (17?) and that's it, instead of a 100 count of average looking women.

Also, how much effort did one put into their lay count?! I mean, I guess anyone get get a massive lay count if he spends every spare second swiping and cold approaching, especially if going for girls below him. Or travelling to 3rd world countries etc. (or other 'tricks')

And It's not like it's something to really brag about anyway, in a way. I mean, it's not really a 'skill'. That's why sosuaves sole adivce when it comes to this is basically 'hit the gym more', 'approach more girls', 'make more money'.

Some really really good looking dude is gonna have a high lay count of stunners, AND he likely didn't have to work for it at all. (like my ex wing) - But do we clap for him when he tells us his 400 slay count of mostly teenage models? I mean, it's kind of to be expected when you look at him lol. It would only really be a flex if he was 5ft tall and bald and pulled of regular miracles, but then we know from infields of professional PUA's (presumably the best that exist it this or at least very close) that there is a very real 'ceiling' when it comes to this and they all basically get the results you'd expect and not one has ever come close to blowing my mind with their results
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I’ve counted 83 and I began very young.
I don’t want to go over 100 in my life.

It’s never been my style to rack up notches
It just sort of happened.

The longest relationship I’ve had was 6 years long and I never cheated on her.
I’m a long term relationship type of boyfriend.
 

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Quantity or Quality?
Is not always about how many, but a very important thing to point out is that you often read or hear about LTR's, for over 10/20, or even better, 30/40 years, reporting that their sex is the best it's ever been...

Obviously, these are unique experiences that not everyone of us will be lucky enough to have in life, but it always sounds a bit off to me, considering that for most couples, the relationship might end after just 3 to 5 years. The best sex/love always happens within the first 36 months.

Your thoughts
 

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I truly don’t know. It wasn’t something I considered. I just know that I didn’t want them long, for the most part.
 

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70 ish

Who really cares, though. It's just a number. Most people would rather have slept with prime Adriana Lima and megan Fox in '2 and a half men' (17?) and that's it, instead of a 100 count of average looking women.

Also, how much effort did one put into their lay count?! I mean, I guess anyone get get a massive lay count if he spends every spare second swiping and cold approaching, especially if going for girls below him. Or travelling to 3rd world countries etc. (or other 'tricks')

And It's not like it's something to really brag about anyway, in a way. I mean, it's not really a 'skill'. That's why sosuaves sole adivce when it comes to this is basically 'hit the gym more', 'approach more girls', 'make more money'.

Some really really good looking dude is gonna have a high lay count of stunners, AND he likely didn't have to work for it at all. (like my ex wing) - But do we clap for him when he tells us his 400 slay count of mostly teenage models? I mean, it's kind of to be expected when you look at him lol. It would only really be a flex if he was 5ft tall and bald and pulled of regular miracles, but then we know from infields of professional PUA's (presumably the best that exist it this or at least very close) that there is a very real 'ceiling' when it comes to this and they all basically get the results you'd expect and not one has ever come close to blowing my mind with their results
Past a certain point it's more about how much of a sex addict/hedonist you are or how much you're trying to prove or how much effort you're putting in.

If a man can fck 50 he could fck 200.
 

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The best answer to this question is the one I got from Chad guy I was dumb enough to ask in a club.

answer -

“maaate,
once I got to 143…..

I stopped counting ;) “

and all super models (for sure). Haha.

Rocco Siffredi the Italian pornstar has claimed 10,000…. I don’t think I’ll beat that fella!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What do yall think is the minimum any man should have just so he doesn't value pvssy too much? Lets say by age 40 and let's also say that fat chicks, oral sex, and sub-5 women don't count.

I think probably 40-50 is reasonable.
 

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There has to be a point system based on quality. Older women, fat women, single mothers, and ugly women don't count. In fact, you are deducted points if you have slept with them.

Hot girl 18-22 100 points
Hot girl 23-26 90 points
Hot girl 27-29 30 points
Hot girl 30+ 8 points
Hot girl 35+ 2.5 points
Hot girl 40+ 0 points

Ugly girl any age -1000 points
Single mother any age -1500 points
Fat girl any age -2500 points

The whole point of Sosuave is to get HOT YOUNG girls.

You come in here and say "I've slept with 40 women. 25 single mothers, 10 ugly, 10 fat" You've slept NO women.
 

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There has to be a point system based on quality. Older women, fat women, single mothers, and ugly women don't count. In fact, you are deducted points if you have slept with them.

Hot girl 18-22 100 points
Hot girl 23-26 90 points
Hot girl 27-29 30 points
Hot girl 30+ 8 points
Hot girl 35+ 2.5 points
Hot girl 40+ 0 points

Ugly girl any age -1000 points
Single mother any age -1500 points
Fat girl any age -2500 points

The whole point of Sosuave is to get HOT YOUNG girls.

You come in here and say "I've slept with 40 women. 25 single mothers, 10 ugly, 10 fat" You've slept NO women.
over 35 doesn't count either unless you're 50+
 

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There has to be a point system based on quality. Older women, fat women, single mothers, and ugly women don't count. In fact, you are deducted points if you have slept with them.

Hot girl 18-22 100 points
Hot girl 23-26 90 points
Hot girl 27-29 30 points
Hot girl 30+ 8 points
Hot girl 35+ 2.5 points
Hot girl 40+ 0 points

Ugly girl any age -1000 points
Single mother any age -1500 points
Fat girl any age -2500 points

The whole point of Sosuave is to get HOT YOUNG girls.

You come in here and say "I've slept with 40 women. 25 single mothers, 10 ugly, 10 fat" You've slept NO women.
If that's your ultimate goal in life, I feel sorry for you.
 

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Mmm hmm back when I'us a youngin my Memaw would put me in the hen shed and I reckon since dey already hatched it be ok to count em. By golly there was at least 436 in there and I was never so happy in my life mmm hmm. My Memaw made me eat nuggets but by golly I couldn't do it, those chicks were so hot and bothered, cackling all the time so I jus eat dem french fried potaters to shut em up. Mmm hmm.

You see I love me chicks but you gots to keep your hands off dem eggs, dey will cackle and bac bac if you do. So just love them, dats da secret.

So 436, y'all try and top that. And don't you think my Memaw wouldn't teach me to tell a liar gud. Mmm hmm.
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Has nothing to do with that. As a man, women should always be a secondary pursuit to your goals and ambitions, not the center of the universe.
no one is saying that lol. i might be misunderstanding what you quoted in your post, but to me a notch count is incidental and not much else. i just find it suspect how many guys here are claiming 100 or even 200+ and i would LOVE to see a photo collage of all those chicks.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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