"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How long is too long?

Blood Angel

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Just out of curiosity - in your opinion, how long can you wait to call a girl who gave you her number before calling her up isn't really an option anymore?

I ask because I managed to get my first number from a cold approach :)rockon: ) maybe three weeks ago now. I knew the girl already from elementary school (and we attended the same high school, though we'd never been close), but I've yet to get in touch with her.

So is it worth calling her up, or should I not bother?

Thanks!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Deadly_Ripped

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Let's say I get a number on a Friday night, I'll give myself until Sunday the following week to call. If I haven't called by then, then I must not have been that interested in the first place.

I almost never take a number unless it's either a)offered or b)I fully intend to call mid-week the following week or that coming weekend.
 

cola

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Blood Angel said:
Just out of curiosity - in your opinion, how long can you wait to call a girl who gave you her number before calling her up isn't really an option anymore?

I ask because I managed to get my first number from a cold approach :)rockon: ) maybe three weeks ago now. I knew the girl already from elementary school (and we attended the same high school, though we'd never been close), but I've yet to get in touch with her.

So is it worth calling her up, or should I not bother?

Thanks!
Stop following these stupid rules. You call her when you have time. If its 3 weeks later or 3 months later..
 

Ease

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sounds very long.

3-5 days is usually a good amount of time.

But from a cold approach you might want to build some more rapport before u ask out for a first meet, so keep in mind.
 

Blood Angel

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cola said:
Stop following these stupid rules. You call her when you have time. If its 3 weeks later or 3 months later..
I was asking because I wasn't sure if it'd make her uncomfortable or something.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Al Moh.

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Don't turn this into rocket-science. So you still want to get in touch with her? Then call her, the worst she can do is hang up on you and you will not see her again. If you don't call at all you walk right into the worst case scenario.
 
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