"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How long is too long?

Blood Angel

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Just out of curiosity - in your opinion, how long can you wait to call a girl who gave you her number before calling her up isn't really an option anymore?

I ask because I managed to get my first number from a cold approach :)rockon: ) maybe three weeks ago now. I knew the girl already from elementary school (and we attended the same high school, though we'd never been close), but I've yet to get in touch with her.

So is it worth calling her up, or should I not bother?

Thanks!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Deadly_Ripped

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Let's say I get a number on a Friday night, I'll give myself until Sunday the following week to call. If I haven't called by then, then I must not have been that interested in the first place.

I almost never take a number unless it's either a)offered or b)I fully intend to call mid-week the following week or that coming weekend.
 

cola

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Blood Angel said:
Just out of curiosity - in your opinion, how long can you wait to call a girl who gave you her number before calling her up isn't really an option anymore?

I ask because I managed to get my first number from a cold approach :)rockon: ) maybe three weeks ago now. I knew the girl already from elementary school (and we attended the same high school, though we'd never been close), but I've yet to get in touch with her.

So is it worth calling her up, or should I not bother?

Thanks!
Stop following these stupid rules. You call her when you have time. If its 3 weeks later or 3 months later..
 

Ease

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sounds very long.

3-5 days is usually a good amount of time.

But from a cold approach you might want to build some more rapport before u ask out for a first meet, so keep in mind.
 

Blood Angel

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cola said:
Stop following these stupid rules. You call her when you have time. If its 3 weeks later or 3 months later..
I was asking because I wasn't sure if it'd make her uncomfortable or something.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Al Moh.

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Don't turn this into rocket-science. So you still want to get in touch with her? Then call her, the worst she can do is hang up on you and you will not see her again. If you don't call at all you walk right into the worst case scenario.
 
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