"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How good is to play the "ignore her" card?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Docs
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Doing it yourself answers 100% of your questions, for you decide what to do, and you yourself understand the mistakes and successes of action.
Just a few ideas.
~ You play hot/cold to stimulate attraction with a attracted girl in hopes of raising the attraction
~ You play ignore to insane requests on her part (walking away)
~ Whatever else you want to test it on.
reyalp
Master Don Juan
BuckwildNYC
Senior Don Juan
So the ignoring thing will definately work if you've already established some attraction from her. If she's not feeling you then you could probably either ignore her or kiss her ass all day and it won't make much of a difference. Contrary to what many guys on this site say.......... girls usually know the moment they meet you if they want to sleep with you. Now you could always fukk this up by acting like a wuss or a total jackass but a little ignoring never hurt anybody
It'll show that you ain't desperate.......... just don't overdue it or it'll look like your playing games. Dealing with women is like walking a tight rope. Lean too far either way and you'll end up flat on your face.That probaly wasn't too helpful lol. It's just hard. It's like trying to give somebody advice on playing a musical instrument over the internet. Women aren't computers.....you can't just input a code and expect them all to respond the same way. Learning to read their signs is probably the number one thing you can do. Look up in the Bible about body language and that should answer alot of your questions.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Buddhistguy
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Interesting ... I think I have a female friend who may be doing the same thing to me. We have known each other for years, and have both been attracted to each other at the wrong times. She has recently came out of a relationship, and I invited her twice out to movie or show premieres (One of the the perks of my job) but each time, she said she would call me to let me know if she could make it, but has not called me either time. Still trying to work out whether she is trying to ditch me, or whether she is playing hard to get ...
BuckwildNYC
Senior Don Juan
Girls on the other hand have a whole other set of things that go on in their heads. "I better not call him, I like him, but I don't want to seem too easy". I mean if she ditched you once I would say she might be playing a game. After twice I think you gotta put her at the back of your list and start focusing on other girls. Or at least pull her card. Let her know you're not gong to accept her flaky behavior. She either has to put up or shut up.