"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How good is to play the "ignore her" card?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Docs
Banned
Doing it yourself answers 100% of your questions, for you decide what to do, and you yourself understand the mistakes and successes of action.
Just a few ideas.
~ You play hot/cold to stimulate attraction with a attracted girl in hopes of raising the attraction
~ You play ignore to insane requests on her part (walking away)
~ Whatever else you want to test it on.
reyalp
Master Don Juan
BuckwildNYC
Senior Don Juan
So the ignoring thing will definately work if you've already established some attraction from her. If she's not feeling you then you could probably either ignore her or kiss her ass all day and it won't make much of a difference. Contrary to what many guys on this site say.......... girls usually know the moment they meet you if they want to sleep with you. Now you could always fukk this up by acting like a wuss or a total jackass but a little ignoring never hurt anybody
It'll show that you ain't desperate.......... just don't overdue it or it'll look like your playing games. Dealing with women is like walking a tight rope. Lean too far either way and you'll end up flat on your face.That probaly wasn't too helpful lol. It's just hard. It's like trying to give somebody advice on playing a musical instrument over the internet. Women aren't computers.....you can't just input a code and expect them all to respond the same way. Learning to read their signs is probably the number one thing you can do. Look up in the Bible about body language and that should answer alot of your questions.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Buddhistguy
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Interesting ... I think I have a female friend who may be doing the same thing to me. We have known each other for years, and have both been attracted to each other at the wrong times. She has recently came out of a relationship, and I invited her twice out to movie or show premieres (One of the the perks of my job) but each time, she said she would call me to let me know if she could make it, but has not called me either time. Still trying to work out whether she is trying to ditch me, or whether she is playing hard to get ...
BuckwildNYC
Senior Don Juan
Girls on the other hand have a whole other set of things that go on in their heads. "I better not call him, I like him, but I don't want to seem too easy". I mean if she ditched you once I would say she might be playing a game. After twice I think you gotta put her at the back of your list and start focusing on other girls. Or at least pull her card. Let her know you're not gong to accept her flaky behavior. She either has to put up or shut up.