"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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how do you respond to "you're such a player"

bankai

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I was curious about how you've all responded when a girl jokes about you being a "player" or always having girls around you?

eg.
girl: who's been texting you?
guy: just a friend
girl: who? more girls! you're such a player.

I want this girl to feel a little pressure and I also want her to feel like she's got a chance.
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Turn it back around on her and make fun of her: "Look at you, acting all possessive already!"
 

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Is it too off topic to say something like "i can't help it if i'm this good looking"?
 

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so i wrote back:

me: "Don't be jealous! I can't help it if I'm this good looking/smart/funny"
her: "... funny, i guess i agree... not so smart, definitely not that good looking"


not sure how to take that one
 

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All you have to say is " I cant help that people want to be around me" or "huh, i never noticed that before, it just seems so natural"
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Lexington

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bankai said:
so i wrote back:

me: "Don't be jealous! I can't help it if I'm this good looking/smart/funny"
her: "... funny, i guess i agree... not so smart, definitely not that good looking"


not sure how to take that one
Sounds to me like she's kidding around with you. That's a good sign. Just keep making fun of her but in a joking, friendly way. That's what flirting is all about.
 

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I'm assuming this is text messages? Stop texting. If you keep kidding around, it is not going to come off how you want it to. ****y/funny doesn't work when they need to read it. If she's reading it, it's playing in her head how she thinks you would be saying it. In other words, it's automatically "predictable" to her.

If you actually say it, your tone dictates the ****y/funny. The whole point of it is to come off in a way that she wouldn't necessarily expect. It won't come across properly in text.
 

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By using some initiative. And thinking for yourself.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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my answer

"ha WHATEVER"

just laugh it off, don't have an actual answer. She isn't saying "you're such a player", she's asking "do you think you are a player?"

The correct answer to "do you think you are a player" isn't YES or NO, the correct answer is not to give an answer
 

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use "if i was a player then_____ , but if you want me to text you more just ________"
 

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"are you a slut?...nm u ARE a slut lol..seriously, haha"
 

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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Her:you're such a player

Me: It takes a player to recognize another one :whistle:
 

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Depends on a million variables, but sometimes I just say, "oh i'm not a player, I'm just gay"

But honestly, if a girl gives you that line, it's a bittersweet compliment. If you exude player vibes, you might have to get your acting skills up some. The best players come across like choirboys, snakes in the grass style.

No lawn mowers
 

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bankai said:
I was curious about how you've all responded when a girl jokes about you being a "player" or always having girls around you?

eg.
girl: who's been texting you?
guy: just a friend
girl: who? more girls! you're such a player.

I want this girl to feel a little pressure and I also want her to feel like she's got a chance.
Damn straight. And if you play your cards right, you could be #362. I'm trying to hit 500 and then retire.
 

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If she says your not good looking just reply back with "and theres me thinking we had nothing in common"
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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