"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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how do you respond to "you're such a player"

bankai

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I was curious about how you've all responded when a girl jokes about you being a "player" or always having girls around you?

eg.
girl: who's been texting you?
guy: just a friend
girl: who? more girls! you're such a player.

I want this girl to feel a little pressure and I also want her to feel like she's got a chance.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Turn it back around on her and make fun of her: "Look at you, acting all possessive already!"
 

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Is it too off topic to say something like "i can't help it if i'm this good looking"?
 

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so i wrote back:

me: "Don't be jealous! I can't help it if I'm this good looking/smart/funny"
her: "... funny, i guess i agree... not so smart, definitely not that good looking"


not sure how to take that one
 

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All you have to say is " I cant help that people want to be around me" or "huh, i never noticed that before, it just seems so natural"
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Lexington

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bankai said:
so i wrote back:

me: "Don't be jealous! I can't help it if I'm this good looking/smart/funny"
her: "... funny, i guess i agree... not so smart, definitely not that good looking"


not sure how to take that one
Sounds to me like she's kidding around with you. That's a good sign. Just keep making fun of her but in a joking, friendly way. That's what flirting is all about.
 

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I'm assuming this is text messages? Stop texting. If you keep kidding around, it is not going to come off how you want it to. ****y/funny doesn't work when they need to read it. If she's reading it, it's playing in her head how she thinks you would be saying it. In other words, it's automatically "predictable" to her.

If you actually say it, your tone dictates the ****y/funny. The whole point of it is to come off in a way that she wouldn't necessarily expect. It won't come across properly in text.
 

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By using some initiative. And thinking for yourself.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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mahoney

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my answer

"ha WHATEVER"

just laugh it off, don't have an actual answer. She isn't saying "you're such a player", she's asking "do you think you are a player?"

The correct answer to "do you think you are a player" isn't YES or NO, the correct answer is not to give an answer
 

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use "if i was a player then_____ , but if you want me to text you more just ________"
 

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"are you a slut?...nm u ARE a slut lol..seriously, haha"
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Her:you're such a player

Me: It takes a player to recognize another one :whistle:
 

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Depends on a million variables, but sometimes I just say, "oh i'm not a player, I'm just gay"

But honestly, if a girl gives you that line, it's a bittersweet compliment. If you exude player vibes, you might have to get your acting skills up some. The best players come across like choirboys, snakes in the grass style.

No lawn mowers
 

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bankai said:
I was curious about how you've all responded when a girl jokes about you being a "player" or always having girls around you?

eg.
girl: who's been texting you?
guy: just a friend
girl: who? more girls! you're such a player.

I want this girl to feel a little pressure and I also want her to feel like she's got a chance.
Damn straight. And if you play your cards right, you could be #362. I'm trying to hit 500 and then retire.
 

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If she says your not good looking just reply back with "and theres me thinking we had nothing in common"
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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