"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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how do you respond to "you're such a player"

bankai

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I was curious about how you've all responded when a girl jokes about you being a "player" or always having girls around you?

eg.
girl: who's been texting you?
guy: just a friend
girl: who? more girls! you're such a player.

I want this girl to feel a little pressure and I also want her to feel like she's got a chance.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Turn it back around on her and make fun of her: "Look at you, acting all possessive already!"
 

bankai

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Is it too off topic to say something like "i can't help it if i'm this good looking"?
 

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so i wrote back:

me: "Don't be jealous! I can't help it if I'm this good looking/smart/funny"
her: "... funny, i guess i agree... not so smart, definitely not that good looking"


not sure how to take that one
 

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All you have to say is " I cant help that people want to be around me" or "huh, i never noticed that before, it just seems so natural"
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Lexington

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bankai said:
so i wrote back:

me: "Don't be jealous! I can't help it if I'm this good looking/smart/funny"
her: "... funny, i guess i agree... not so smart, definitely not that good looking"


not sure how to take that one
Sounds to me like she's kidding around with you. That's a good sign. Just keep making fun of her but in a joking, friendly way. That's what flirting is all about.
 

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I'm assuming this is text messages? Stop texting. If you keep kidding around, it is not going to come off how you want it to. ****y/funny doesn't work when they need to read it. If she's reading it, it's playing in her head how she thinks you would be saying it. In other words, it's automatically "predictable" to her.

If you actually say it, your tone dictates the ****y/funny. The whole point of it is to come off in a way that she wouldn't necessarily expect. It won't come across properly in text.
 

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By using some initiative. And thinking for yourself.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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mahoney

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my answer

"ha WHATEVER"

just laugh it off, don't have an actual answer. She isn't saying "you're such a player", she's asking "do you think you are a player?"

The correct answer to "do you think you are a player" isn't YES or NO, the correct answer is not to give an answer
 

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use "if i was a player then_____ , but if you want me to text you more just ________"
 

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"are you a slut?...nm u ARE a slut lol..seriously, haha"
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Her:you're such a player

Me: It takes a player to recognize another one :whistle:
 

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Depends on a million variables, but sometimes I just say, "oh i'm not a player, I'm just gay"

But honestly, if a girl gives you that line, it's a bittersweet compliment. If you exude player vibes, you might have to get your acting skills up some. The best players come across like choirboys, snakes in the grass style.

No lawn mowers
 

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bankai said:
I was curious about how you've all responded when a girl jokes about you being a "player" or always having girls around you?

eg.
girl: who's been texting you?
guy: just a friend
girl: who? more girls! you're such a player.

I want this girl to feel a little pressure and I also want her to feel like she's got a chance.
Damn straight. And if you play your cards right, you could be #362. I'm trying to hit 500 and then retire.
 

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If she says your not good looking just reply back with "and theres me thinking we had nothing in common"
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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