"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How do you know you like someone?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Heizen
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Ladiesssman
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BGMan
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BGMan
Helter Skelter
Master Don Juan
I'm assuming your referring to females, although I think it applies to both genders.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Abbott
Master Don Juan
Ben
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Kaine
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Now thats love
The TallOne
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Thats also pain.Originally posted by Kaine
When I want her to fcuk me in the a$$
Now thats love
Abbott
Master Don Juan
I'd think it's common sense.
Basically, can I have fun if I hang out with her? Would I be glad I went, or would it be a complete disaster?
But to be more specific (and to answer your question):
NOTE: These are assuming that it's a woman with whom I'd like to have a relationship, not friendship.
1) Is she my type (5'4"-6'6", not fat, very attractive, and white)? I'm not racist but I just can't see myself with a woman who isn't white.
2) Are there any dealbreakers (i.e. single mothers, extremely religious, FAR right politics, etc.)?
3) Will she expect me to pay for everything? I refuse to pay for everything.
4) Does she have at least one motorcar that she doesn't have to share with anyone else? This is because I refuse to drive her everywhere, and I don't live in a big city with lots of taxicabs and busses (and thus can get away w/o a motorcar).
5) Does she do her hair and wear make-up? I don't like girls who don't do that, because it shows they don't care about themselves that much.
6) Does she like to go out, party, and have fun? I like girls who do that, because I like to do that too.
7) Does she believe in the concept of "no sex before marriage?" I hope not.
8) Is she going to have a problem with the fact that I'm an Atheist, a vegetarian, and/or the fact that I light up?
9) Will she try to dominate me like some man-hating femanazi, or at least try to "wear the pants?" I figured that's the man's job, plus I tend to be more of a leader type.
I hope that answered your question.
Ben
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Her, or him?Originally posted by Kaine
When I want her to fcuk me in the a$$
Now thats love
BGMan
Master Don Juan
Don't be stupid. Of course it's not racist. After all, if all white people only dated other races, pretty soon there would be no white people anymore. Duh. So paradoxically, dating your own race maintains diversity. Funny, huh?
How tall are you? I can't imagine being with a girl taller than me... unless she's really hot, then I don't care!
BGMan
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.