"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How do you know you like someone?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Heizen
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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BGMan
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BGMan
Helter Skelter
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I'm assuming your referring to females, although I think it applies to both genders.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Abbott
Master Don Juan
Ben
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Kaine
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Now thats love
The TallOne
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Thats also pain.Originally posted by Kaine
When I want her to fcuk me in the a$$
Now thats love
Abbott
Master Don Juan
I'd think it's common sense.
Basically, can I have fun if I hang out with her? Would I be glad I went, or would it be a complete disaster?
But to be more specific (and to answer your question):
NOTE: These are assuming that it's a woman with whom I'd like to have a relationship, not friendship.
1) Is she my type (5'4"-6'6", not fat, very attractive, and white)? I'm not racist but I just can't see myself with a woman who isn't white.
2) Are there any dealbreakers (i.e. single mothers, extremely religious, FAR right politics, etc.)?
3) Will she expect me to pay for everything? I refuse to pay for everything.
4) Does she have at least one motorcar that she doesn't have to share with anyone else? This is because I refuse to drive her everywhere, and I don't live in a big city with lots of taxicabs and busses (and thus can get away w/o a motorcar).
5) Does she do her hair and wear make-up? I don't like girls who don't do that, because it shows they don't care about themselves that much.
6) Does she like to go out, party, and have fun? I like girls who do that, because I like to do that too.
7) Does she believe in the concept of "no sex before marriage?" I hope not.
8) Is she going to have a problem with the fact that I'm an Atheist, a vegetarian, and/or the fact that I light up?
9) Will she try to dominate me like some man-hating femanazi, or at least try to "wear the pants?" I figured that's the man's job, plus I tend to be more of a leader type.
I hope that answered your question.
Ben
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Her, or him?Originally posted by Kaine
When I want her to fcuk me in the a$$
Now thats love
BGMan
Master Don Juan
Don't be stupid. Of course it's not racist. After all, if all white people only dated other races, pretty soon there would be no white people anymore. Duh. So paradoxically, dating your own race maintains diversity. Funny, huh?
How tall are you? I can't imagine being with a girl taller than me... unless she's really hot, then I don't care!
BGMan
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.