"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How do you know you like someone?
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- Start date
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Heizen
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Ladiesssman
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BGMan
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Helter Skelter
Master Don Juan
I'm assuming your referring to females, although I think it applies to both genders.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Abbott
Master Don Juan
Ben
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Kaine
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Now thats love
The TallOne
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Thats also pain.Originally posted by Kaine
When I want her to fcuk me in the a$$
Now thats love
Abbott
Master Don Juan
I'd think it's common sense.
Basically, can I have fun if I hang out with her? Would I be glad I went, or would it be a complete disaster?
But to be more specific (and to answer your question):
NOTE: These are assuming that it's a woman with whom I'd like to have a relationship, not friendship.
1) Is she my type (5'4"-6'6", not fat, very attractive, and white)? I'm not racist but I just can't see myself with a woman who isn't white.
2) Are there any dealbreakers (i.e. single mothers, extremely religious, FAR right politics, etc.)?
3) Will she expect me to pay for everything? I refuse to pay for everything.
4) Does she have at least one motorcar that she doesn't have to share with anyone else? This is because I refuse to drive her everywhere, and I don't live in a big city with lots of taxicabs and busses (and thus can get away w/o a motorcar).
5) Does she do her hair and wear make-up? I don't like girls who don't do that, because it shows they don't care about themselves that much.
6) Does she like to go out, party, and have fun? I like girls who do that, because I like to do that too.
7) Does she believe in the concept of "no sex before marriage?" I hope not.
8) Is she going to have a problem with the fact that I'm an Atheist, a vegetarian, and/or the fact that I light up?
9) Will she try to dominate me like some man-hating femanazi, or at least try to "wear the pants?" I figured that's the man's job, plus I tend to be more of a leader type.
I hope that answered your question.
Ben
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Her, or him?Originally posted by Kaine
When I want her to fcuk me in the a$$
Now thats love
BGMan
Master Don Juan
Don't be stupid. Of course it's not racist. After all, if all white people only dated other races, pretty soon there would be no white people anymore. Duh. So paradoxically, dating your own race maintains diversity. Funny, huh?
How tall are you? I can't imagine being with a girl taller than me... unless she's really hot, then I don't care!
BGMan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.