I agree. Of course I’m still going to vet her for her personality. Just saying I thought she was pretty, especially because I’ve never thought a black woman was attractive before.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How do you feel about black women?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
lamath
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I agree
sometime its better to not judge a book by its cover, however subtle signs can be spoted on social media then after meeting her you can have a more accurate picture
lamath
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Hot and she look fun
mrgoodstuff
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She knows her poses. Enjoy the ride while it lasts.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
mrgoodstuff
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Shes fine. There are plenty of fine sisters.
Rules apply for all she should desire and pursue you. She should be very interested with you as a priority.
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sazc
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well, she is a photographer, so she may have photographic wisdom because of that....still, that particular reply makes me think she has a file folder full of great pics, snaps, vids, etc that she can drag and drop as a reply, at a moments notice, when the sitch calls for it.
mrgoodstuff
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With her catching rays like a master i find it nearly impossible that shes not a high level narcissist. Have fun keep eyes open.
I think that’s a really unfair assessment. It’s not hard to go by a window and take a picture with natural light and because she’s a photographer she definitely knows that. Doesn’t make her narcissistic. Who would send a bad picture? That’s just stupid lol. Plus OP said when he met her she seemed like a nice person. It’s way too early to lable someone a narcissist because they took a picture in good lighting.
mrgoodstuff
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Good luck.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Not OP.
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I’m black so it’s mostly who I talk to.
Main points of advice:
Do NOT make her feel like a fetish. Most Black women tell me this turns them off instantly when dealing with white men.
Do NOT mention race at all. Black women are the least likely to date outside their race as it is, so don’t remind her of this. If she’s giving you the time of day, she’s obviously open to dating a white dude.
If you voted for or like Donald Trump, do NOT admit or discuss this. It will get you blocked. Over 95% of Black women despise him. It is an instant dealbreaker for most.
Do NOT touch her on the first date unless she initiates touch. Black people in general are not touchy. Just trust me on this.
Good luck!
Main points of advice:
Do NOT make her feel like a fetish. Most Black women tell me this turns them off instantly when dealing with white men.
Do NOT mention race at all. Black women are the least likely to date outside their race as it is, so don’t remind her of this. If she’s giving you the time of day, she’s obviously open to dating a white dude.
If you voted for or like Donald Trump, do NOT admit or discuss this. It will get you blocked. Over 95% of Black women despise him. It is an instant dealbreaker for most.
Do NOT touch her on the first date unless she initiates touch. Black people in general are not touchy. Just trust me on this.
Good luck!
I’ll add to this DONT touch her hair or try to act black by saying stuff like, “what it is?”. You’ll just embarrass yourself.
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I´ve never been attracted to any black women either but I don´t think much about it. It´s like single moms or whales or grannies, I just don´t register them as sexual beings.
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I agree 100%. I have never been a racial person but 5 years ago I would have not dated a black woman. In the past 2 years I have went out with several.
There are some amazing looking black women out there who like us white boys. Play it cool and dont treat her any different than you would anyone else on a date.
If you get awkward looks from people while out with her (very possible depending on where you live), act like it is no big deal and she will be completely fine with it.
If there is one thing I have learned in the last 2 years and that is going out a woman of different race is not only very exciting, but you will open yourself up to much self confidence.
OP this chick is very attractive. Go for it but do it with confidence as if you have been there before.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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that's not natural light, it struck me as a manually applied filter
I didn’t bring up natural light he did. Either way if she had a ton of makeup on filter or not you would be able to tell. A filter isn’t going to make a woman go from a 5 to an 8-photoshop sure but not a filter.
Idk maybe because I’m younger I think girls taking selfies and applying those dumb Snapchat filters is to be expected. OP is asking about dating black women and if this girl is hot. Clearly she is. The rest is up to him.
mrgoodstuff
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When i said a master at catching rays i meant she knows her angles and smiles. She aligns it perfectly to maximize the attention she recieves.
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Black women are great. Might be a bit before I date one though. Reason being they usually like someone who is socially savvy, Bad Boy/Hood, is very masculine, can dance and knows modern rap music. If you don’t have those qualities, they’ll pretty much treat you as a joke. I’m still working on those, but when I get it there I’d totally be open to dating a black woman.
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So what? OP asked for a video. She sent. He wanted her attention and she gave it to him. I don’t what’s the issue with what she did. Plus I’m sure she knows she’s attractive. There’s nothing wrong with that as long as it’s a healthy amount of confidence.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.