I agree. Of course I’m still going to vet her for her personality. Just saying I thought she was pretty, especially because I’ve never thought a black woman was attractive before.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How do you feel about black women?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
lamath
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I agree
sometime its better to not judge a book by its cover, however subtle signs can be spoted on social media then after meeting her you can have a more accurate picture
lamath
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Hot and she look fun
mrgoodstuff
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She knows her poses. Enjoy the ride while it lasts.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
mrgoodstuff
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Shes fine. There are plenty of fine sisters.
Rules apply for all she should desire and pursue you. She should be very interested with you as a priority.
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sazc
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well, she is a photographer, so she may have photographic wisdom because of that....still, that particular reply makes me think she has a file folder full of great pics, snaps, vids, etc that she can drag and drop as a reply, at a moments notice, when the sitch calls for it.
mrgoodstuff
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With her catching rays like a master i find it nearly impossible that shes not a high level narcissist. Have fun keep eyes open.
I think that’s a really unfair assessment. It’s not hard to go by a window and take a picture with natural light and because she’s a photographer she definitely knows that. Doesn’t make her narcissistic. Who would send a bad picture? That’s just stupid lol. Plus OP said when he met her she seemed like a nice person. It’s way too early to lable someone a narcissist because they took a picture in good lighting.
mrgoodstuff
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Good luck.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Not OP.
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I’m black so it’s mostly who I talk to.
Main points of advice:
Do NOT make her feel like a fetish. Most Black women tell me this turns them off instantly when dealing with white men.
Do NOT mention race at all. Black women are the least likely to date outside their race as it is, so don’t remind her of this. If she’s giving you the time of day, she’s obviously open to dating a white dude.
If you voted for or like Donald Trump, do NOT admit or discuss this. It will get you blocked. Over 95% of Black women despise him. It is an instant dealbreaker for most.
Do NOT touch her on the first date unless she initiates touch. Black people in general are not touchy. Just trust me on this.
Good luck!
Main points of advice:
Do NOT make her feel like a fetish. Most Black women tell me this turns them off instantly when dealing with white men.
Do NOT mention race at all. Black women are the least likely to date outside their race as it is, so don’t remind her of this. If she’s giving you the time of day, she’s obviously open to dating a white dude.
If you voted for or like Donald Trump, do NOT admit or discuss this. It will get you blocked. Over 95% of Black women despise him. It is an instant dealbreaker for most.
Do NOT touch her on the first date unless she initiates touch. Black people in general are not touchy. Just trust me on this.
Good luck!
I’ll add to this DONT touch her hair or try to act black by saying stuff like, “what it is?”. You’ll just embarrass yourself.
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I´ve never been attracted to any black women either but I don´t think much about it. It´s like single moms or whales or grannies, I just don´t register them as sexual beings.
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I agree 100%. I have never been a racial person but 5 years ago I would have not dated a black woman. In the past 2 years I have went out with several.
There are some amazing looking black women out there who like us white boys. Play it cool and dont treat her any different than you would anyone else on a date.
If you get awkward looks from people while out with her (very possible depending on where you live), act like it is no big deal and she will be completely fine with it.
If there is one thing I have learned in the last 2 years and that is going out a woman of different race is not only very exciting, but you will open yourself up to much self confidence.
OP this chick is very attractive. Go for it but do it with confidence as if you have been there before.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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that's not natural light, it struck me as a manually applied filter
I didn’t bring up natural light he did. Either way if she had a ton of makeup on filter or not you would be able to tell. A filter isn’t going to make a woman go from a 5 to an 8-photoshop sure but not a filter.
Idk maybe because I’m younger I think girls taking selfies and applying those dumb Snapchat filters is to be expected. OP is asking about dating black women and if this girl is hot. Clearly she is. The rest is up to him.
mrgoodstuff
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When i said a master at catching rays i meant she knows her angles and smiles. She aligns it perfectly to maximize the attention she recieves.
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Black women are great. Might be a bit before I date one though. Reason being they usually like someone who is socially savvy, Bad Boy/Hood, is very masculine, can dance and knows modern rap music. If you don’t have those qualities, they’ll pretty much treat you as a joke. I’m still working on those, but when I get it there I’d totally be open to dating a black woman.
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So what? OP asked for a video. She sent. He wanted her attention and she gave it to him. I don’t what’s the issue with what she did. Plus I’m sure she knows she’s attractive. There’s nothing wrong with that as long as it’s a healthy amount of confidence.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.